HEATHER: Talk about sex before you have sex. Talk about sex during sex. Talk about sex after sex. It’s OK to have a discussion the next day or the week after and say, I liked this, but I didn’t like that, or can we try this next time? Et cetera. Et cetera.
I think that vanilla society are missing out on a lot of feelings and emotions and satisfaction that they could get if they would be more open and honest with each other and more willing to communicate about these things.