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Does it feel awkward bringing up safe sex to your partner(s)? 





How do I choose the right condom for me?

First Check the Lable…

Make sure to read the condom label to check if it is FDA-approved for use against unplanned pregnancy and STDs. According to FDA regulations, anything that “sufficiently resembles” a condom must comply with FDA standards including novelty condoms, like those that glow in the dark or are flavored. If condoms do not comply with these standards, they may not claim to be a contraceptive device.

Condoms also have an expiration date, make sure that your are using it BEFORE the date on the packaging.

Now Let Us Consider Size…



Did the sizing activity make you feel insecure? 







Now Let’s Discuss Material…

Latex Allergy?

What Tecture Does Your Penis Like?
What Strength Do You Need?
​​​​​​​How Hard Do You Want to Play?
How Long Do You Want To Last?

Non-latex Condoms
Non-latex condoms are ideal if you or your partner has an allergy to latex. These condoms are made from non latex materials such as polyurethane or lambskin. Non latex condoms are hypoallergenic and known for their natural feeling.

Do Your Sexy Parts Like It Slippery When Wet?

Personal Lubricants
Personal lubricants are a vital part of a healthy sex life. Find a wide selection of lubes including silicone, water-based, natural, vaginal, anal, flavored, and more. Lubricants can be used during intercourse, foreplay, desensitizing, and some are formulated to increase the likelihood of pregnancy.

 

Finally, Make Sure That We Protect All Our Body Parts During Sex!

“Nowadays, you can do anything that you want—anal, oral, fisting—but you need to be wearing gloves, condoms, protection.
― Slavoj Žižek

Dental Dams
Dental dams are thin pieces of latex or similar material that can be used to protect against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) during oral sex or rimming (anilingus). They come in the shape of a small square or rectangle and each piece should be used only one time.

How Effective Are Condoms?

According to PlannedParenthood.Org, Condoms are great at preventing both pregnancy and STDs. If you follow the instructions and use them every time you have vaginal, anal, or oral sex, there’s very little chance of pregnancy, or getting or giving an STD. 

 
 

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It’s Not About the Nail

The Advantage of a Cuddle Buddy

Have you ever felt that feeling of cloistered peace within a night’s rest, listening to the drifting wind or the soothing rain? That warm sensation that you are watched over, safe and not alone? Perhaps the comforting cuddling of another, despite the struggles and turmoils of the day by day. This elusive ideal sensation of peacetime, of relaxation. It should belong to all, as it astronomically improves one’s well being, and attitude towards life. But what is one to do in the cold, when there is no other to aid in this feeling?

Perhaps it may be received as juvenile, rejected, or unsettling, but the positive results are positively undeniable. The solution is to cuddle inanimate, comfortable objects in the absence of another. Sometimes, it is even more advantageous to cuddle inanimate objects in the presence of another partner. Why is this the case? There are two answers to this question, however. The secular advantage, in the chemical balance of the body, or perhaps the more personal perspective from that of one’s own actions.

Examining the secular advantage to inanimate cuddling is the simple act of endorphin stimulation. The comforting touch of another, be it inanimate or otherwise, is of a healing process that aids in the reinforcement of safe feelings. This act of routine or occasional relaxation provides a necessary reprieve from the day to day stresses of the singular individual. Although it may seem tacky, it allows one to revisit the instinctive comforts of youth and safety, and allows for a better sense of security overall. The continuous, unchecked anxiety of the individual unconcerned for their own wellbeing can be detrimental to daily life, so it is imperative to keep the anxiety in check and take care of it.

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When looking from the personal experience perspective, the advantage of such cuddling and relief, be it an object or person, is not totally obvious. Some find it warm, unsettling, or perhaps lack the experience of such practice. But it cannot be denied the relief when, faced with monstrous and overwhelming obstacles, that one simple hug from the correct individual may grant one the strength to persevere and continue to provide their best in the trials ahead. That correct hug, that promise of safety, can be provided by something like a doll or teddy as well if preferred. 

There is nothing shameful or condemnable about self-help. It is the responsibility of yourself to tend to yourself and enjoy life’s wonders and enchanting moments, even in spite of the seemingly inescapable lows of life. No matter the person, the tools, or the object, it is important to care for your wellbeing, in any way possible. What have you to lose?

Cannasexuality Part 2

Is there perhaps a singular, defined limit to the ingenuity humans have, and the desire for, elevating our enjoyment of necessary and commonplace functions in life? Is there lacking in the ambition of human intellect in order to push past the limits of modernity into the future, mind-shattering realm of entertainment? No, there is no limit to this. There is not a lack of drive or desire for this. Let us continue in discussing the many applications of cannabis in elevating sexual play into this second level of pleasure.

In the conversation with popular, famous options, this strain succeeds. Although less enjoyable tasting, hence the name ‘Sour Diesel’, it provides a particularly insatiable feeling. Do you seek the feeling of hot skin, intensity, and continuous intercourse? This will provide that feeling, elevating desire to no end. However, it is quite potent, so be wary of dosage.

In almost complete foil to the prior strain, there is a certain kind of cannabis strain that is specifically inclined to lower, more subtle effects to achieve a general sense of higher elevation, during actions such as foreplay. Purple Princess is a stealthy strain, that truly gives you buzz and a fascinating high after a while. This stirs about a general feeling of contentment that resonates throughout the body. It’s general scent of that of cannabis, but a faint note of fruit snacks along with it.

Have you experienced surrealism, and desire it to influence the reality around you? Atomic Northern Lights might be the particular item of your wishes, however it may be a tad unclear as to how it affects the world of sexual sensation. This certain high will add a hint of exaggeration and psychoactivity to your session, enhancing the stimulus of light and sounds. Perhaps you may like the deep end of it, and delving into the ‘trippy’ rabbit hole of intercourse? If so, this may be worth a taste.

There is a certain passion to be had in the chess game. Each piece methodically placed, each thought with careful clarity few can recall except when under the pressure of this play. Sex can operate like this, and lead to a satisfying interaction, an attractive clash for dominance. This sort of play, of the rival Switches can be quite elevated with the assistance of the Strawberry Cough. This plant is named for its extraordinary taste and aroma, resembling that of sweet berries, as well as it’s proclivity to making even the most active of users cough. It stirs about a powerful, heightened senses that usually invoke deep conversations, and erratic wild thoughts.

In all of the serious tones of intercourse, mayhaps in the dominance, may be in the sexual chess game played, or just the heavy opening of hearts, some might lose the original, fundamental reason for the popularity of sex and it’s throes. It is a fun time. Enhancing this aspect of giggly, surprising, and fun times of sex can be properly achieved through the use of Kali Dog. It provokes a sense of sociability, excited attitudes, and a massive effect of the munchies. People using this particular strain engage in food play, perhaps strawberries, chocolate, or whipped cream. The options are endless, as well as cravings for food after a dose of this strain.

And yet the possibilities remain aplenty. These are but a few more possibilities to be had with the tool of the green wave at your disposal. Use responsibly, and let your imagination run wild as you explore the elevated pleasures to be had in weed-enhanced intercourse.

4 Scientifically-Based Benefits Of CBD

1. CBD Can Relieve Chronic Pain

Did you know that the use of marijuana for pain dates back as far as 3000 years ago? However, the exact components responsible for its pain-relieving effect have just been discovered a few years ago. CBD is one of these compounds.

Our body is composed of a specialized system known as the Endocannabinoid System (or ECS). This system regulates various body functions such as sleep, appetite, pain, and immune system response. The human body produces endocannabinoids (neurotransmitters) that naturally bind to cannabinoid receptors in the nervous system.

According to studies, CBD may help remedy chronic pain by either, interacting with neurotransmitters, reducing inflammation, or impacting the normal functioning of endocannabinoid receptors. Several studies have shown that a combination of THC and CBD can help treat pain in multiple sclerosis and arthritis patients.

In a study involving 47 multiple sclerosis patients, it was discovered that those who received Sativex (a combination of CBD and THC) experienced considerable improvement in walking, muscle spasms and pain as compared to those who received a placebo.

In another study involving people suffering from rheumatoid arthritis, it was discovered that Sativex helped improve sleep quality, pain at rest, and in the movement for all the 58 participants.

2. CBD Helps Reduce Anxiety And Depression Symptoms

According to the World Health Organization (or WHO), more than 300 million people suffer from depression. According to WHO, more than 800,000 people die due to suicide every year. Further, WHO states that depression is the largest single contributor to disability across the globe. Anxiety disorders are the sixth-largest contributor to disability.

These simple statistics show that anxiety and depression are common medical disorders. You should therefore not feel alone since, as you have seen, more than 300 million people have gone through the same or similar things that you are experiencing right now.

Although most people still rely on pharmaceutical drugs to deal with these conditions, some of these drugs are not only ineffective but may also have severe side effects or lead to substance abuse. It is for this reason that most people have opted to take relief in medical marijuana.

A group of 24 people suffering from social anxiety disorder was either given a placebo or 600 mg of CBD just before a public speaking test. It was discovered that the group that received CBD experienced less discomfort, cognitive impairment, and anxiety in their speech performance than their counterparts who received a placebo.

Several animal studies have also shown CBD to have antidepressant properties. Researchers credit these properties of CBD to its ability to impact the brain’s receptors for serotonin. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter responsible for regulating social behavior and mood changes.

3. CBD May Help Reduce Acne

According to research, more than 9.4% of the global population suffers from acne. This is a skin condition that can be caused by several factors such as underlying inflammation, bacteria, genetics, and over secretion of sebum.

Researchers believe that due to its ability to reduce sebum secretion and its anti-inflammatory properties, CBD may help treat acne. According to a study on the effects of CBD on human sebocytes, it was discovered that the compound helped prevent the secretion of excessive sebum.

It was also discovered that the compound inhibited the activation of pro-acne agents such as inflammatory cytokines. Scientific research has highlighted the antifungal and antibacterial effects of the cannabis plant. It is believed that these properties may help reduce or prevent infections from pollutants or dirt on the skin.

Although the initial findings are promising, more study is still needed to verify the effectiveness of CBD as a natural remedy for acne.

4. CBD May Help Alleviate Cancer-Related Symptoms

We can never talk about the health benefits of CBD without mentioning its effects on cancer symptoms. It is still too early to make claims about CBD for cancer, but preliminary findings show that the compound can help alleviate the side effects of various treatments associated with cancer treatments.

Another way through which CBD can help cancer patients is through its pain-relieving properties. Both cancer and its treatment can lead to severe pain, mainly due to the inflammation, nerve injury, or pressure on internal organs. Too much pain can become resistant to powerful pain relievers such as opioids.

A study was conducted to find out the effect of both THC and CBD on cancer-patients who could not react to the standard pain-reducing techniques. It was discovered that those who received a combination of both THC and CBD experienced improved symptoms than those who were treated with THC only.

By indirectly acting on CB2 receptors, CBD may help reduce inflammation, hence reducing the pain. Another common effect of cancer treatments such as chemotherapy is nausea and vomiting. Although you can always use pharmaceutical drugs to treat these symptoms, some of these drugs are ineffective hence prompting people to seek alternatives such as CBD.

In a study involving 16 people undergoing chemo, it was discovered that a combination of both THC and CBD helped reduce chemo-related vomiting and nausea better than the standard treatments alone. Some animal and test-tube studies show that CBD may have anti-cancer properties.

In one of the test-tube studies, concentrated CBD helped castigate the death of cancerous breast cells in human. In another study, CBD was seen to inhibit the growth and spread of aggressive cancerous breast cells in mice. However, more studies and research are needed.

If you are a cancer patient and planning to use CBD for the symptoms, it is crucial that you talk with your doctor first as he will be able to advise you appropriately. Other health benefits of CBD include improved heart health, a remedy against arthritis, muscles spasms, Crohn’s disease, etc.

Indeed, CBD can benefit human health in different ways. Pet owners are also turning to CBD for the health and well-being of their dogs and other pets. Whatever you use CBD for, make sure to follow the right dosage instructions, this compound is, after all, a drug like any other.

Seek professional advice if you have concerns about side effects of adding CBD and finding the right dosage to your treatment plan.

Let us know what you think.

 

Cannasexuality Part 1

It is the goal of modern civilization’s invention for the necessities, such as food, sex, and other basic needs, to elevate the quality to the highest steps possible. Many tools have been developed from this desire for enhanced pleasure: the culinary world, toys and dolls, and otherwise. One such tool is becoming legalized further by the day, and has become today’s fastest growing industry. While cannabis is currently being explored within the realms of culinary expertise and enjoyment, there are various applications of such substances towards the realm of intercourse. Sex, intercourse, whatever the title, it is a healthy and natural action in the world we live in. How can it be enhanced in quality with the aid of the green wave?

When regarding the world of cannabis, there are a large variety of strains of which hold an entire spectrum of effects on the system, and that of the experience of sex. As with any medicine, it affects each individual differently, and may completely alter the feeling and mood of the interaction.

A strain for more peaceful intercourse, the feeling of looking into each others’ eyes and interacting gently, is commonly known as Bubblegum Kush. This certain strain is light, and provides pleasant tingling sensations, as well as a more relaxed feeling after a while. This citrusy aroma presents a more comfortable atmosphere during intercourse, and lessen the innate barriers from intimacy we people commonly employ.

Of course, more sensual and calm atmospheres are not for everyone. There are times in which subtlety is no longer an option, in which what matters is fiery energy and intensity. Perhaps the ‘Trainwreck’ strain is for you. It is a mostly cerebral high that induces a strange state of euphoria, and inhibits some amount of pain. Earthy and citrusy, this particular plant is quite useful to experimentation that may prove discomforting, such as BDSM, or otherwise.

Although, when referring to more relaxed encounters with one another, perhaps there are a fantastic amount of strains to be had. A destressing substance might be the tool that provides the ease and buzzed intimacy you seek. Granddaddy Purple is the name, a grape and berry aromatic sensation, and it boasts quite a reputation. Known as ‘green Viagra’ in some circles, the plant provides a stress-free, yet pleasure-enhanced mood.

Perhaps it is not the sensation of sex you seek, but to instead enhance the quality of the foreplay and buildup into the act itself. This might indicate a preferred strain for this use is the Jack Herer, named for a famous activist for legalization. Despite it’s honors, it is an enjoyable strain in it’s own right. It initially provides a powerful rush of adrenaline, that eventually declines into enjoyable tingling throughout the body. It provides excitement, and building tension to elevate the quality of foreplay involved in your exploits.

Within the scope of sexual sensations, there is a world that can be taken even further beyond with the aid of cannabis as a medicinal enhancement. This is, of course, experimental, kinky sex. These kinds of encounters, however, can be particularly nerve wracking to those of the more vanilla alignment. If such boundary-testing activities are your thing, consider the Jillybean strain. Mango pineapple scents serenade your loose tongue, and evokes feelings of euphoria that make that kink you’ve always sought to try seem that much sweeter.

These are not the limits of the green wave on sexual life, however. There are plenty of strains, and plenty of effects from each individual one. Luxury is merely the elevation of enjoyment. Perhaps it may be time to join the green wave, and attempt to elevate yours?

Is Dispensary Etiquette A Real Thing?

Dispensary Etiquette: What You Need To Know?

For the ones going to the cannabis dispensary for the first time, the experience can turn out to be unsettling. Even though cannabis has umpteen number of benefits for both recreational and medical users, the knowledge regarding what exactly to buy shall elude you.

Besides, cannabis has always had a stigma around its use for either purpose for a long time, across generations. Hence, even though many US states have legalized its use, there is bound to arise that sense of intimidation when you first step into a cannabis dispensary store. For the managers and owners of the dispensaries, the essential idea is to assist the customers well and good.

This article shall take you through some dispensary etiquette that shall come in handy as a dispensary audience. It will also serve a purpose to gain insights into how the dispensary can help the regular dispensary for their better knowledge going further.

Awareness About The Local Laws

The laws concerning cannabis and its products are always changing from time to time. The amount one can sell or possess differ from one State to another. Thus, this makes it imperative for the dispensary to be aware of the current scenario of law and legalities concerning cannabis. Growing cannabis has also become possible due to the recent amendments in the law in a few States.

It is always better to stay on the safer side of the law. Remaining up to date with ever-changing rules and regulations about cannabis dispensation shall help the dispensary managers immensely. To attain this, a few investigative readings into the recreational and medical use aspects can be highly useful.

Security Guards

The presence of security guards at the entrance of the dispensary can be intimidating for novice visitors. They can mistake these guards as police officers patrolling the area. Due to the looming fear, these visitors might eventually leave and avoid coming to the store altogether. Hence, it is imperative to make sure the guards are welcoming while handling their jobs.

Their demeanor should be able to convince the customers of safety and comfortability. To avoid any mishap, the security guards also ought to make sure no one is carrying weapons in the store. Besides the security checkpoint at the store, the guards also need to remain vigilant to ensure the orderly handling of business.

Check-In Area

The dispensary maintains a check-in area outside the shopping space for the customers. It ensures that the visitors of the dispensary are carrying the necessary paperwork and documents for a smooth transaction. In the case of States legalizing medical cannabis, the presence of at least a State ID to validate identification and a doctor’s recommendation for the prescription is deemed necessary.

To properly facilitate the process, it is significant to focus that this area is sufficiently operated. The low workforce at this point can lead to excessive delays, which the customers would not appreciate. Hence, the motive should be to cater to the requirements set for the purchase of cannabis and ensure the best possible experience for the visitors.

Knowledgeable Staff

The novice visitors to the dispensary lookout for the staff that might help them in choosing the right product. Even the ones with the experience of buying cannabis come up with questions that need informative answering. Thus it is cardinal to employ such staff who can address the queries of the customers well.

Not only shall they help select the right product but will also enable the visitors to know about the specific effects of different strains. The staff should also make sure that they recommend the customers based on their tolerance levels and needs. This kind of attention and care is especially important in the case of concentrates and edibles.

study suggests that cannabis has a wide range of therapeutic benefits to the body. Being able to convey these to the customers on inquiry shall enable them to make informed decisions. Hence, even though it is the customer that takes the final call, the guidance of the staff turns out to be of high significance.

Parking Space

Proper parking space comes as a point of necessary consideration for the dispensary. Most of the people visiting the dispensary arrive in cars/vehicles. The entire process of showcasing relevant documents at the check-ins by the customers, enquiring about the products, and finally buying the appropriate one can take some time. Hence, it becomes imperative to arrange for the parking of vehicles.

Not only will this ensure the avoidance of traffic jams but will also help prevent the blocking of roads and nuisance for the public. However, there have been cases where the parking lots at dispensaries tend to become places for cannabis consumption. If this happens, the dispensary can even lose its license, if found out by the patrolling officers.

Moreover, it is not safe for drivers to consume cannabis before driving. In some states, it is illegal to distribute cannabis. Sharing it with friends or family members in the parking space can also turn out to be illegal in this respect. This shall further increase the amount of fine and penalties that arise. Thus, the proper guarding of the parking space carries a lot of significance.

Avoid Allowing Customers To Take Photographs

Generally, there is not much harm in clicking pictures of cannabis products. Most people might do it for their social media handles. However, due to the security concerns, there is a prohibition on clicking photographs inside the dispensary. As per an article, some of the managers running the dispensaries contend that there have been cases where the visitors click pictures to check where the camera locations are.

In these cases, the instances of attempts at theft and shoplifting might arise. However, it is highly crucial to make sure that the behavior of the staff at the dispensary is polite to the customers. You do not want them to never come back to your store after the ongoing visit. Thus, make sure you bring the rules of the dispensary to notice of the consumers coherently.

The presence of a notice board laying down the rules and procedure of buying the products can be of enormous help. This shall also bring down the instances of improper administration of the dispensary. All these points show that the management of cannabis dispensary requires due care and planning for it to function well.

Therefore, make sure you follow these etiquettes thoroughly and strengthen your dispensary’s image in the market.

Let us know what you think.

Better communication applies to self talk, too

Here is one exercise to begin developing positive self-talk:

Write down some of the negative messages inside your mind.  Be specific, whenever possible, and include anyone you remember who contributed to that message.
Next, to those negative messages write down a positive truth in your life.  Don’t give up if you don’t find them quickly.  For every negative message there is positive,  keep looking until you find them.

For example, you might write, when you make a mistake, you think, “I can’t do anything right.” Right beside that negative statement, your positive message could be, “I accept my mistake and am becoming a better person.”

Positive self-talk is not self-deception, positive self-talk is about the truth, in situations and in yourself.  When negative events or mistakes happen, positive self-talk seeks to bring the positive out of the negative to help you do better, go further, or just keep moving forward.

Helping Kids Process Their Emotions Free From Shame

From the Blog of Generation Mindful:

Have you ever heard someone tell a child who is crying to stop? Maybe they lead with something like, “What are you, a baby?” Or maybe they add in  some fear as well by saying, “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” Oof.

Most of us cringe to think these things are being said to children (and they are) but are we aware of the more subtle ways we ourselves might be dismissing children’s emotions

If you’ve ever caught yourself wanting to tell an emotional child to just stop, (so basically, if you are a human being) here are three things to keep in mind that will help you help kids process their emotions free from shame.   

1) ALLOW FOR EMOTIONSKids can actually feel intimidated by their own emotions, especially when adults in their lives react negatively to the expression of those feelings. When we react to a child’s experience and make having big feelings “wrong”, no matter how inconvenient or annoying that experience might me, we are minimizing and at times denying that child the right to their own internal experience. And as tempting as dismissing and denying might seem because we think we are “nipping this bad attitude in the bud”, in actuality, we are likely making things worse; at times even increasing the likelihood that we will find ourselves back in this very place tomorrow. And really, who wants that?

The first step in helping kids learn to process their feelings is acceptance. We get to accept the fact that this child is feeling one form of not happy or another. Allow for emotions. Period. End of story. Whether you see these emotions as logical or ludacris is irrelevant. Hit a pause button on the inner dialog that wants to scream, “What is wrong with you!?!?” and make space for their emotions instead. You do not need to agree with someone’s emotions to make space for them. All you really need to do is allow for them.

In the face of screaming and whining, allowing is easier said than done, so it’s helpful to have a phrase in your back pocket you can turn to for strength. Mine is this:

“EMOTIONS ARE SACRED.”

For me this means that emotions are not right and they are not wrong. They just are. Emotions are safe to feel, they matter, and they are always allowed. Kids are simply exploring a whole new world of feelings and benefit greatly when the adults in their world support this process.

2) RECOGNIZE EMOTIONS: Once you’ve made space for big emotions, the next step is to help children learn to recognize their feelings and the feelings of others. If kids are expressing their big feelings with actions like hurting others or otherwise acting out, see these actions as a form of communication – a cry for help. The phrase I turn to for patience and strength in these challenging moments is this:

“MISBEHAVIOR IS AN UNMET NEED.”

This moves me into thinking, “What’s the need?!” instead of “What is WRONG with this child?!”. With my own energies centered, I am then better equipped to approach the situation, maintaining my boundaries and respecting the child at the very same time. Instead of punishment, when we center ourselves first, we are then able to help children:

  • Think about and express how they were feeling.
  • Draw a connection between their feelings and why/how they acted out.
  • Consider their thoughts, words and actions. Tools like this set of (free) printable calming strategies with cute pictures kids can color along with words (designed for ages 3 to about 9) from the Time-In Toolkit are helpful as are any number of play based approaches to nurturing social and emotional skills in kids.

When we help children process their actions in connection to their thoughts and feelings, free from punishment, shame and blame, we are teaching important social and emotional skills in the most powerful way possible… and that is by example. 

3) MODEL FORGIVENESS: There are times that feel impossible for us to keep our cool. Take the mom in my last parenting class who’s son threw a glass of water at her… a challenging moment to be sure. Despite of our best intentions, we are going to get knocked off center. Instead of beating ourselves up for our anger and frustration in times like these, we can see them as a teaching moment for us to model self love and acceptance in the face of our own mistakes.

When we are aware of our own trigger moments, instead of beating ourselves up, we can simply apologize. The catch phrase we use in my home in the face of our teaching moments is this:

“MISTAKES HELP ME LEARN AND GROW.”

When we model self-love and forgiveness, children learn self-love and forgiveness. Share how you were feeling, what you might have done differently and something you learned. In doing so, you are teaching children that it is possible for us to learn from our mistakes free from shame.

Emotions in and of themselves are never a negative thing and everyday life affords us countless opportunities to support children in learning how to process their emotions. This is no small task, but the stakes are high and the rewards for doing so are even higher. Our very world and peace in our time depends on it. 

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Mom of four, author and parent educator Suzanne Tucker is the founder of Generation Mindful, a line of educational tools, toys and programs committed to connecting the generations playfully and nurturing the human spirit.

Pony Play Images

Pony Play can be one of the most beautiful and disciplined fetishes. Both Handling and Pony Play require discipline, training, and commitment to the experience. Many handlers will train under professional equestrians in order to learn the proper skills necessary to train their pony.