The Unique Grief of Ending a BDSM Relationship

Autostraddle

“I always turn to words to comfort me and I am unsurprised to find that there is virtually nothing written on ending D/s relationships. There is no book I can read to feel my pain reflected on a page, to answer how long this feeling will last, to intellectualize my emotions. I turn to my favorite essay where Judith Butler’s words on grief slice me up every time. She says that grief is not a temporary state of being; we carry it with us in perpetuity. It takes on a new form as I read it now and the metaphors of bondage, ties, and control jump off the page. I read into each line in the absence of anything more relevant, ‘We’re undone by each other. And if we’re not, we’re missing something.'”

19 08 23

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NCSF's Race Bannon Advocacy Award is Presented to Gayle S. Rubin

By Russell J. Stambaugh, PhD

This year, NCSF awarded the Race Bannon Advocacy Award to author and leather activist Gayle S. Rubin. She elected to be awarded from the stage at Up Your Alley Faire on July 28 on Folsom Street. I introduced and Race made the presentation as the music muted and the dancers stopped gyrating for five minutes!

Gayle was awarded for her long history of effective advocacy, including her scene and academic writing, her role in founding Samois, the first Lesbian Leather organization, her service to kink as an historian, including her work on the board of the National Leather Archives and Museum, and work on the Leather Historical District in San Francisco. Thanks Gayle! This is a small recognition for a collassal contribution!

19 08 20

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Community initiatives and events

Echo Magazine

Hosted by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, September is national Consent Month, which is a time to recognize and embrace the “freedom of expression achieved when informed consent is present,” according to the organization. “We also just released our Consent Signs that are specifically designed for different groups and for people to choose from so they can post on their social media,” says spokeswoman Susan Wright. Visit the Consent Month website for more information and to learn about this vital topic.

19 08 21

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Verizon sells Tumblr for a pittance of what it was once worth

FastCompany.com

“Tumblr’s fortunes declined with Yahoo’s, which sold for a fraction of its erstwhile value to Verizon in 2017. Under Verizon, Tumblr’s introduction of an NSFW content ban in late 2018 was followed by an exodus of kinky blogs, and a roughly one-third traffic drop by April 2019. Automattic also forbids porn on sites it hosts. But Tumblr may have better prospects with an owner who actually wants it, rather than a conglomerate that got stuck with it.”

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Sex Positive Content Creation with Amp Somers – Ep 100 American Sex Podcast

Amp Somers from Watts The Safe Word discusses sex-positive content creation. We talk: the rewards & difficulties of being a Youtuber, why demonetization and censorship have snowballed, and how the mark of Youtube success has changed over the years. Amp discusses other platforms too– how people are bullying adult creators on Instagram under the guise […]

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The Advantage of a Cuddle Buddy

Have you ever felt that feeling of cloistered peace within a night’s rest, listening to the drifting wind or the soothing rain? That warm sensation that you are watched over, safe and not alone? Perhaps the comforting cuddling of another, despite the struggles and turmoils of the day by day. This elusive ideal sensation of peacetime, of relaxation. It should belong to all, as it astronomically improves one’s well being, and attitude towards life. But what is one to do in the cold, when there is no other to aid in this feeling?

Perhaps it may be received as juvenile, rejected, or unsettling, but the positive results are positively undeniable. The solution is to cuddle inanimate, comfortable objects in the absence of another. Sometimes, it is even more advantageous to cuddle inanimate objects in the presence of another partner. Why is this the case? There are two answers to this question, however. The secular advantage, in the chemical balance of the body, or perhaps the more personal perspective from that of one’s own actions.

Examining the secular advantage to inanimate cuddling is the simple act of endorphin stimulation. The comforting touch of another, be it inanimate or otherwise, is of a healing process that aids in the reinforcement of safe feelings. This act of routine or occasional relaxation provides a necessary reprieve from the day to day stresses of the singular individual. Although it may seem tacky, it allows one to revisit the instinctive comforts of youth and safety, and allows for a better sense of security overall. The continuous, unchecked anxiety of the individual unconcerned for their own wellbeing can be detrimental to daily life, so it is imperative to keep the anxiety in check and take care of it.

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When looking from the personal experience perspective, the advantage of such cuddling and relief, be it an object or person, is not totally obvious. Some find it warm, unsettling, or perhaps lack the experience of such practice. But it cannot be denied the relief when, faced with monstrous and overwhelming obstacles, that one simple hug from the correct individual may grant one the strength to persevere and continue to provide their best in the trials ahead. That correct hug, that promise of safety, can be provided by something like a doll or teddy as well if preferred. 

There is nothing shameful or condemnable about self-help. It is the responsibility of yourself to tend to yourself and enjoy life’s wonders and enchanting moments, even in spite of the seemingly inescapable lows of life. No matter the person, the tools, or the object, it is important to care for your wellbeing, in any way possible. What have you to lose?

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Cannasexuality Part 2

Is there perhaps a singular, defined limit to the ingenuity humans have, and the desire for, elevating our enjoyment of necessary and commonplace functions in life? Is there lacking in the ambition of human intellect in order to push past the limits of modernity into the future, mind-shattering realm of entertainment? No, there is no limit to this. There is not a lack of drive or desire for this. Let us continue in discussing the many applications of cannabis in elevating sexual play into this second level of pleasure.

In the conversation with popular, famous options, this strain succeeds. Although less enjoyable tasting, hence the name ‘Sour Diesel’, it provides a particularly insatiable feeling. Do you seek the feeling of hot skin, intensity, and continuous intercourse? This will provide that feeling, elevating desire to no end. However, it is quite potent, so be wary of dosage.

In almost complete foil to the prior strain, there is a certain kind of cannabis strain that is specifically inclined to lower, more subtle effects to achieve a general sense of higher elevation, during actions such as foreplay. Purple Princess is a stealthy strain, that truly gives you buzz and a fascinating high after a while. This stirs about a general feeling of contentment that resonates throughout the body. It’s general scent of that of cannabis, but a faint note of fruit snacks along with it.

Have you experienced surrealism, and desire it to influence the reality around you? Atomic Northern Lights might be the particular item of your wishes, however it may be a tad unclear as to how it affects the world of sexual sensation. This certain high will add a hint of exaggeration and psychoactivity to your session, enhancing the stimulus of light and sounds. Perhaps you may like the deep end of it, and delving into the ‘trippy’ rabbit hole of intercourse? If so, this may be worth a taste.

There is a certain passion to be had in the chess game. Each piece methodically placed, each thought with careful clarity few can recall except when under the pressure of this play. Sex can operate like this, and lead to a satisfying interaction, an attractive clash for dominance. This sort of play, of the rival Switches can be quite elevated with the assistance of the Strawberry Cough. This plant is named for its extraordinary taste and aroma, resembling that of sweet berries, as well as it’s proclivity to making even the most active of users cough. It stirs about a powerful, heightened senses that usually invoke deep conversations, and erratic wild thoughts.

In all of the serious tones of intercourse, mayhaps in the dominance, may be in the sexual chess game played, or just the heavy opening of hearts, some might lose the original, fundamental reason for the popularity of sex and it’s throes. It is a fun time. Enhancing this aspect of giggly, surprising, and fun times of sex can be properly achieved through the use of Kali Dog. It provokes a sense of sociability, excited attitudes, and a massive effect of the munchies. People using this particular strain engage in food play, perhaps strawberries, chocolate, or whipped cream. The options are endless, as well as cravings for food after a dose of this strain.

And yet the possibilities remain aplenty. These are but a few more possibilities to be had with the tool of the green wave at your disposal. Use responsibly, and let your imagination run wild as you explore the elevated pleasures to be had in weed-enhanced intercourse.

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4 Scientifically-Based Benefits Of CBD

1. CBD Can Relieve Chronic Pain

Did you know that the use of marijuana for pain dates back as far as 3000 years ago? However, the exact components responsible for its pain-relieving effect have just been discovered a few years ago. CBD is one of these compounds.

Our body is composed of a specialized system known as the Endocannabinoid System (or ECS). This system regulates various body functions such as sleep, appetite, pain, and immune system response. The human body produces endocannabinoids (neurotransmitters) that naturally bind to cannabinoid receptors in the nervous system.

According to studies, CBD may help remedy chronic pain by either, interacting with neurotransmitters, reducing inflammation, or impacting the normal functioning of endocannabinoid receptors. Several studies have shown that a combination of THC and CBD can help treat pain in multiple sclerosis and arthritis patients.

In a study involving 47 multiple sclerosis patients, it was discovered that those who received Sativex (a combination of CBD and THC) experienced considerable improvement in walking, muscle spasms and pain as compared to those who received a placebo.

In another study involving people suffering from rheumatoid arthritis, it was discovered that Sativex helped improve sleep quality, pain at rest, and in the movement for all the 58 participants.

2. CBD Helps Reduce Anxiety And Depression Symptoms

According to the World Health Organization (or WHO), more than 300 million people suffer from depression. According to WHO, more than 800,000 people die due to suicide every year. Further, WHO states that depression is the largest single contributor to disability across the globe. Anxiety disorders are the sixth-largest contributor to disability.

These simple statistics show that anxiety and depression are common medical disorders. You should therefore not feel alone since, as you have seen, more than 300 million people have gone through the same or similar things that you are experiencing right now.

Although most people still rely on pharmaceutical drugs to deal with these conditions, some of these drugs are not only ineffective but may also have severe side effects or lead to substance abuse. It is for this reason that most people have opted to take relief in medical marijuana.

A group of 24 people suffering from social anxiety disorder was either given a placebo or 600 mg of CBD just before a public speaking test. It was discovered that the group that received CBD experienced less discomfort, cognitive impairment, and anxiety in their speech performance than their counterparts who received a placebo.

Several animal studies have also shown CBD to have antidepressant properties. Researchers credit these properties of CBD to its ability to impact the brain’s receptors for serotonin. Serotonin is a neurotransmitter responsible for regulating social behavior and mood changes.

3. CBD May Help Reduce Acne

According to research, more than 9.4% of the global population suffers from acne. This is a skin condition that can be caused by several factors such as underlying inflammation, bacteria, genetics, and over secretion of sebum.

Researchers believe that due to its ability to reduce sebum secretion and its anti-inflammatory properties, CBD may help treat acne. According to a study on the effects of CBD on human sebocytes, it was discovered that the compound helped prevent the secretion of excessive sebum.

It was also discovered that the compound inhibited the activation of pro-acne agents such as inflammatory cytokines. Scientific research has highlighted the antifungal and antibacterial effects of the cannabis plant. It is believed that these properties may help reduce or prevent infections from pollutants or dirt on the skin.

Although the initial findings are promising, more study is still needed to verify the effectiveness of CBD as a natural remedy for acne.

4. CBD May Help Alleviate Cancer-Related Symptoms

We can never talk about the health benefits of CBD without mentioning its effects on cancer symptoms. It is still too early to make claims about CBD for cancer, but preliminary findings show that the compound can help alleviate the side effects of various treatments associated with cancer treatments.

Another way through which CBD can help cancer patients is through its pain-relieving properties. Both cancer and its treatment can lead to severe pain, mainly due to the inflammation, nerve injury, or pressure on internal organs. Too much pain can become resistant to powerful pain relievers such as opioids.

A study was conducted to find out the effect of both THC and CBD on cancer-patients who could not react to the standard pain-reducing techniques. It was discovered that those who received a combination of both THC and CBD experienced improved symptoms than those who were treated with THC only.

By indirectly acting on CB2 receptors, CBD may help reduce inflammation, hence reducing the pain. Another common effect of cancer treatments such as chemotherapy is nausea and vomiting. Although you can always use pharmaceutical drugs to treat these symptoms, some of these drugs are ineffective hence prompting people to seek alternatives such as CBD.

In a study involving 16 people undergoing chemo, it was discovered that a combination of both THC and CBD helped reduce chemo-related vomiting and nausea better than the standard treatments alone. Some animal and test-tube studies show that CBD may have anti-cancer properties.

In one of the test-tube studies, concentrated CBD helped castigate the death of cancerous breast cells in human. In another study, CBD was seen to inhibit the growth and spread of aggressive cancerous breast cells in mice. However, more studies and research are needed.

If you are a cancer patient and planning to use CBD for the symptoms, it is crucial that you talk with your doctor first as he will be able to advise you appropriately. Other health benefits of CBD include improved heart health, a remedy against arthritis, muscles spasms, Crohn’s disease, etc.

Indeed, CBD can benefit human health in different ways. Pet owners are also turning to CBD for the health and well-being of their dogs and other pets. Whatever you use CBD for, make sure to follow the right dosage instructions, this compound is, after all, a drug like any other.

Seek professional advice if you have concerns about side effects of adding CBD and finding the right dosage to your treatment plan.

Let us know what you think.

 

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Cannasexuality Part 1

It is the goal of modern civilization’s invention for the necessities, such as food, sex, and other basic needs, to elevate the quality to the highest steps possible. Many tools have been developed from this desire for enhanced pleasure: the culinary world, toys and dolls, and otherwise. One such tool is becoming legalized further by the day, and has become today’s fastest growing industry. While cannabis is currently being explored within the realms of culinary expertise and enjoyment, there are various applications of such substances towards the realm of intercourse. Sex, intercourse, whatever the title, it is a healthy and natural action in the world we live in. How can it be enhanced in quality with the aid of the green wave?

When regarding the world of cannabis, there are a large variety of strains of which hold an entire spectrum of effects on the system, and that of the experience of sex. As with any medicine, it affects each individual differently, and may completely alter the feeling and mood of the interaction.

A strain for more peaceful intercourse, the feeling of looking into each others’ eyes and interacting gently, is commonly known as Bubblegum Kush. This certain strain is light, and provides pleasant tingling sensations, as well as a more relaxed feeling after a while. This citrusy aroma presents a more comfortable atmosphere during intercourse, and lessen the innate barriers from intimacy we people commonly employ.

Of course, more sensual and calm atmospheres are not for everyone. There are times in which subtlety is no longer an option, in which what matters is fiery energy and intensity. Perhaps the ‘Trainwreck’ strain is for you. It is a mostly cerebral high that induces a strange state of euphoria, and inhibits some amount of pain. Earthy and citrusy, this particular plant is quite useful to experimentation that may prove discomforting, such as BDSM, or otherwise.

Although, when referring to more relaxed encounters with one another, perhaps there are a fantastic amount of strains to be had. A destressing substance might be the tool that provides the ease and buzzed intimacy you seek. Granddaddy Purple is the name, a grape and berry aromatic sensation, and it boasts quite a reputation. Known as ‘green Viagra’ in some circles, the plant provides a stress-free, yet pleasure-enhanced mood.

Perhaps it is not the sensation of sex you seek, but to instead enhance the quality of the foreplay and buildup into the act itself. This might indicate a preferred strain for this use is the Jack Herer, named for a famous activist for legalization. Despite it’s honors, it is an enjoyable strain in it’s own right. It initially provides a powerful rush of adrenaline, that eventually declines into enjoyable tingling throughout the body. It provides excitement, and building tension to elevate the quality of foreplay involved in your exploits.

Within the scope of sexual sensations, there is a world that can be taken even further beyond with the aid of cannabis as a medicinal enhancement. This is, of course, experimental, kinky sex. These kinds of encounters, however, can be particularly nerve wracking to those of the more vanilla alignment. If such boundary-testing activities are your thing, consider the Jillybean strain. Mango pineapple scents serenade your loose tongue, and evokes feelings of euphoria that make that kink you’ve always sought to try seem that much sweeter.

These are not the limits of the green wave on sexual life, however. There are plenty of strains, and plenty of effects from each individual one. Luxury is merely the elevation of enjoyment. Perhaps it may be time to join the green wave, and attempt to elevate yours?

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