Boho Berry March Unboxing & Review

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March is upon us and the 3rd Boho Berry Box has been making it’s way to subscribers! Here’s a glimpse at what we got this month and my thoughts on the subscription so far.


 

The Loot!

 

Boho Berry Member’s Only March Tracker, Sticker Sampler, and Lucky You Colorable Sticker

 

The tracker and samplers are just the March version of what we’ve gotten the last two months. I like the sampler because even though I may only use two or three this month I can always save them for next year. I could do without the tracker though. I used it the first month but I switch my trackers up regularly and this design just isn’t meeting my needs right now.

 

PenGems Limited Edition Rainbow Ball Point & Signature Pencils Boho Berry Goal Digger

 

This cute little ballpoint came in four color options: Red, Yellow, Orange, Pink. I, happily, got a red one which I’m a total fan of. It’s a bit girly, a bit gay, and writes very smoothly. This will definitely be heading to the office for times my fountain pens just aren’t the best option. On the other hand, I don’t use pencils that often so I’m not sure how much use I’ll get from these. There doesn’t seem to be anything special except the gold-accented “Goal Digger” at the top which is definitely a cute touch.

 

Time2plan Gold Foil & Blue Stripe Washi Tape & Moxiedori Compass Protractor

 

I LOVE the gold foil of this washi less so with the shade of “blue.” It’s more of a mint than a true blue and I’m kind of bummed that it wasn’t either translucent or green toned as it is March. Legit one of the most useful items I’ve gotten in a long while is the tool from Moxiedori! Thin enough to slide in the pocket of my Leuchtturm without making a lump but durable enough I’m not worried I’m going to break it within a few uses.

Final Thoughts on this Month’s Box

This month did seem to be lacking compared to the first two boxes. Some items felt a little cheap (ie: pencils) but others were awesome (rainbow pen and compass!). With any new venture though there’s always going to be some growing pains and working out the kinks. Kara has been really connected with her subscribers asking for feedback. I’m hoping she takes our feedback and makes the boxes even better! Because of that, I’m planning on sticking with the box a few more months to see how it grows before I jump ship.

 

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Source: spa

Boho Berry March Unboxing & Review

Facebooktwittergoogle_plusredditpinterestlinkedintumblr

March is upon us and the 3rd Boho Berry Box has been making it’s way to subscribers! Here’s a glimpse at what we got this month and my thoughts on the subscription so far.


 

The Loot!

 

Boho Berry Member’s Only March Tracker, Sticker Sampler, and Lucky You Colorable Sticker

 

The tracker and samplers are just the March version of what we’ve gotten the last two months. I like the sampler because even though I may only use two or three this month I can always save them for next year. I could do without the tracker though. I used it the first month but I switch my trackers up regularly and this design just isn’t meeting my needs right now.

 

PenGems Limited Edition Rainbow Ball Point & Signature Pencils Boho Berry Goal Digger

 

This cute little ballpoint came in four color options: Red, Yellow, Orange, Pink. I, happily, got a red one which I’m a total fan of. It’s a bit girly, a bit gay, and writes very smoothly. This will definitely be heading to the office for times my fountain pens just aren’t the best option. On the other hand, I don’t use pencils that often so I’m not sure how much use I’ll get from these. There doesn’t seem to be anything special except the gold-accented “Goal Digger” at the top which is definitely a cute touch.

 

Time2plan Gold Foil & Blue Stripe Washi Tape & Moxiedori Compass Protractor

 

I LOVE the gold foil of this washi less so with the shade of “blue.” It’s more of a mint than a true blue and I’m kind of bummed that it wasn’t either translucent or green toned as it is March. Legit one of the most useful items I’ve gotten in a long while is the tool from Moxiedori! Thin enough to slide in the pocket of my Leuchtturm without making a lump but durable enough I’m not worried I’m going to break it within a few uses.

Final Thoughts on this Month’s Box

This month did seem to be lacking compared to the first two boxes. Some items felt a little cheap (ie: pencils) but others were awesome (rainbow pen and compass!). With any new venture though there’s always going to be some growing pains and working out the kinks. Kara has been really connected with her subscribers asking for feedback. I’m hoping she takes our feedback and makes the boxes even better! Because of that, I’m planning on sticking with the box a few more months to see how it grows before I jump ship.

 

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Source: spa

How to Create an Open Environment for Talking About Sex

Vogue

“I mean, the very first question someone asked one day was, ‘How do I introduce BDSM into my sex life?’ ” he says, “and I raised my hand like, ‘Hey, I have a question for all of you: What is BDSM?’ And so they tell me what it is—essentially Fifty Shades of Grey, right?—and we start talking about it, and people are sort of passively saying, ‘Well, you know, it’s when you engage in sort of fantasy play and you use whips and chains,’ and all these things, and I was sitting there just like, ‘Wow, I have the most boring sex life.’ I had no idea that we could use sex as a prism to look at things like safety and trust and self-respect and creativity and our childhood and our relationship to our friends and our parents and the world around us. I was just like, ‘That’s unbelievable.’ ”

Source: ncsf

Is Watching Porn a Form of Infidelity?

What “counts” as cheating on a romantic partner? It depends who you ask.
Research finds that people define infidelity in very different ways.
However, there are some things that people seem to agree on more than
others.

For example, people largely agree that having sexual intercourse with
someone who isn’t your partner is a form of cheating (assuming, of course,
that you agreed to be monogamous with that partner). The same goes for
taking a shower with another person or sending them naked photos. But what
about just watching porn by yourself? Do people typically categorize that
as a form of infidelity? A recent study published in the Archives of Sexual
Behavior offers some insight into this question.
Source: spa

Take our New Survey!

Please take our new Health and Technology Survey, done in partnership with Dr. Rob Cramer’s Old Dominion University research team. Help us to better understand the health issues we face as members of the kink, leather, fetish and non-monogamy communities, and find out how technology can be used to improve our health.

It takes 20-30 minutes to complete, and has Human Subjects Review Committee approval from Old Dominion University:

https://odu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_7NwXXq9VFzcyoKh?RID=MLRP_6xsdlw2x33QEh6d&Q_CHL=email

This survey is a follow-up to our 2015 Mental Health Survey, done in partnership with Dr. Cramer’s research team at University of Alabama and University of Central Florida. Over 800 kinky people took the 2015 survey and were found to be mentally and emotionally healthy as a group.

The results also documented the effects of stigma due to kink discrimination and persecution. These results have been published in: Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, Journal of Behavioral Health Services & Research, Journal of Trauma and Dissociation and International Journal of Social Psychiatry. A poster on the results will be presented at the American Psychological Association annual conference in San Francisco, CA, this August with NCSF Board Members attending and exhibiting to help educate mental health professionals.

Help us further the understanding of our communities by taking this survey!

Source: ncsf

Grandparents' Journey From Vanilla Sex to BDSM

Westword

“Most couples think that honest communication is the key to a happy relationship, but they don’t understand that honest communication does not mean just talking honestly,” Doug says. “It means talking completely, being unafraid to be vulnerable enough to each other and admit that you have thoughts, desires, fantasies that some people might think are strange, but you need to have the comfort level with your partner to not hold anything back.”

Source: ncsf

Guest Blog: Parenting and polyamory

by Tiro

A few years ago, I was talking to a therapist who knew nothing about polyamory. (In fact, she seemed to know very little about most things and our sessions were more like a series of 45-minute lectures on alternative lifestyles—thanks, National Health Service!) I was attempting to explain that yes, I had two partners, both of whom knew about each other, and who had at least one other partner of their own, and yes, this was completely comfortable for me and not in any way pathological, and so on. Eventually, after a lot of rhetorical and emotional labor, she finally looked at me and said, with some satisfaction, “Well, since you’re not planning on having any children, I guess you should do whatever works for you.”

At the time, that felt like enough of a victory, but I’ve heard the same claim repeated both inside and outside the poly-knowledgeable spheres I live in, and every time it’s bothered me slightly more. Why would a poly family be a bad environment to raise children?

More than one in three Americans is part of a stepfamily. This means they have experienced the addition of other adults and/or children, not genetically related to them, into their domestic life. It also means that they have experienced the trauma of a relationship ending, either as a child or a parent.

Research suggests that the single biggest positive factor in minimizing negative outcomes for children involved in separation is positive co-parenting. If children are able to spend the right amount of time with both parents and are not subjected to acrimony, the vast majority of them do well.

In a poly family with children, there is a biological mother and father for each child, and a selection of additional adults, some of whom may take on a measure of parental responsibility. This looks very similar to a blended or step-family of two divorced adults, their new partners, and children from their current and previous relationships. The major difference is a poly family doesn’t come together after a traumatic separation. It’s all of the benefits of having extra adult perspectives in a child’s life, only nobody hates each other—or worse, desperately tries to pretend they don’t hate each other.

Of course, poly families with less stable bonds, or whose lifestyles entail more disruption of the children’s routines, are much less likely to produce stable, well-adjusted children, but the same can be said for situations where one parent has multiple short-term monogamous relationships as they spasmodically try to rediscover the dating scene.

Naturally, there’s no research out there to compare children raised in poly families to those from monogamous post-divorce blended families or monogamous couples who stayed together, so this is all conjecture. I believe, however, that the obvious comparison with blended families means there’s no clear reason to claim that poly families can’t raise happy, successful children.

Source: ncsf

Pink And Blue Weren’t Always Gendered Colors

Pink and blue are colors that are commonly associated with gender in many
Western cultures. Specifically, pink is widely considered to be a “girl
color,” whereas blue is widely thought of as “boy color.” However, this
hasn’t always been the case. In fact, historically, we didn’t associate
these colors with a particular gender—and there was even a period not that
long ago when some argued that pink was for boys and blue was for girls.
Source: spa

THE PAKISTANI-AMERICAN 'MR. LEATHER' BUSTING BDSM STEREOTYPES

Paper Mag

In the world of BDSM, the lack of representation of people of color persists as it does in many other pockets of American mainstream and underground culture. One man breaking the mold of the stereotypical white leather daddy is Ali Mushtaq, a Pakistani-American from California whose presence at leather events and in BDSM circles is something of an anomaly, given his Muslim background and in his words, “Punjabi” appearance. Having won the title of Mr. Leather at a competition in California last year, Mushtaq has been using his platform to drive forward the conversation around visibility, representation and equality in sexuality. Breaking down stereotypes that Muslims can’t be into fetishes or kink, Mushtaq is a sex symbol for a modern age — one in which religion, race and gender are no longer barriers to freedom of sexual expression.

Source: ncsf