Sexual Satisfaction in BDSM

Yet again, dominant players in BDSM show a mental health advantage.

Psychology Today

It is worth noting that in the Italian study (Botta et al., 2019) that I have been discussing, both submissives and the control group scored in the normal range on the measures of sexual satisfaction and sexual problems compared to general population norms. Hence, the findings were not that these groups were particularly distressed compared to dominants, but rather that dominants were functioning unusually well. People who feel comfortable in the dominant role may have a higher sense of agency and self-confidence than those who prefer the submissive role, and even people more generally. This is consistent with my suggestion in a previous post that BDSM practitioners may prefer roles that suit their personalities rather than seeking compensatory roles that contrast with their usual personality. The finding that switches had higher sexual satisfaction than the control group is new in that a previous study that examined switches (Wismeijer & van Assen, 2013) did not find any particular advantage for switches in terms of subjective well-being or neuroticism, with dominants scoring better than all other groups in that study. Hence, it may be worth investigating if the versatility of the switch role is associated with any advantages in other populations of BDSM practitioners. Moreover, that people in an ownership/belonging relationship had higher sexual satisfaction than those who were not, especially when this was in the context of a committed romantic relationship, appears to be a new finding. Botta et al. suggested that people in such relationships might be freer from sexual stigma and benefit from heightened trust and emotional connection. It could also be that people enter into such an arrangement when they see it as a good fit to their personal psychosexual needs. This would be consistent with the increasingly accepted view that BDSM activities are not a pathological aberration or an expression of difficulties with normal sex, but simply an alternative that some people find attractive (Richters, Visser, Rissel, Grulich, & Smith, 2008).

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Pegging with Ruby Ryder – Ep 91 American Sex Podcast

Ruby Ryder tells us how she discovered her joy for pegging at the age of 50 and became the go-to expert. She addresses pegging apprehension that stems from the societal notion that it’s a threat to masculinity. We learn how to talk to your partner about your interest in pegging; how to have pegging induced […]

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#73 – Jim Fleckenstein – Consensual Non-Monogamy

The Better Sex Podcast

For the reasons why people go the non-monogamous route, Jim says it has a lot to do with the emotional needs of the person. He says the question of “what is it that I am trying to attain here?” is a great question to ask to evaluate your emotional needs.

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Sex Toy Testimony at NXIVM Trial Raises Questions About Kink and Consent

Rolling Stone

The discussion of consent following Welch’s testimony is a recurring theme in the trial of Raniere, who is facing seven criminal charges including racketeering, extortion, forced labor, and sex trafficking. Earlier in the trial, “Sylvie” testified that Raniere and a “slave” named Monica Duran, coerced her into having oral sex with him and supplying him with nude photos against her will by threatening to release her “collateral” — in her case, explicit nude photos and embarrassing documents — if she did not. In the BDSM community, which emphasizes the importance of informed consent, the use of collateral is widely discouraged, with one BDSM educator telling Vice last year that “there should never be something hanging over your head, where you have to do something — or else. That totally violates free will and consent.”

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Legal Abortion & Reproductive Justice with Bianca Laureano – Ep 90 American Sex Podcast

Our access to safe and legal abortion is being threatened with the recent anti-choice bills passed in a number of states. Reproductive justice expert, Bianca Laureano, gives us a deeper look at abortion policy & procedure in the US. In this conversation, she helps us understand harmful ways lawmakers have chipped away access to abortion […]

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Sexual consent bill fails in NC Senate, but supporters ‘remain hopeful’

News & Observer

North Carolina may remain the only state in the country where someone cannot be charged with rape for continuing to have sex with a partner who told them to stop. It stems from a 40-year-old legal precedent.

Despite the demise of the Senate measure, it remains possible for a similar provision to be added to another piece of legislation. A state representative who has sponsored a separate bill reversing other precedents affecting sexual assaults told Carolina Public Press late Wednesday that he would not object to the addition of such language to his bill, which passed the House without opposition.

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Demystifying Kink

NPR Radio

HEATHER: Talk about sex before you have sex. Talk about sex during sex. Talk about sex after sex. It’s OK to have a discussion the next day or the week after and say, I liked this, but I didn’t like that, or can we try this next time? Et cetera. Et cetera.

I think that vanilla society are missing out on a lot of feelings and emotions and satisfaction that they could get if they would be more open and honest with each other and more willing to communicate about these things.

19 05 18

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Demystifying Kink

NPR Radio

HEATHER: Talk about sex before you have sex. Talk about sex during sex. Talk about sex after sex. It’s OK to have a discussion the next day or the week after and say, I liked this, but I didn’t like that, or can we try this next time? Et cetera. Et cetera.

I think that vanilla society are missing out on a lot of feelings and emotions and satisfaction that they could get if they would be more open and honest with each other and more willing to communicate about these things.

19 05 18

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Win a Tantric Massage Set worth $200 from Karma Tantric

I’ve teamed up with Karmic Tantric to give away a Tantric Massage set valued at $200.  What kinds of adventures can you have with this set? You can read more about the benefits of Tantric massage in this guest post from Erica Suarez-Hillingdon. To enter, use the widget below. Some entry methods you can only perform […]

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