Ask a Sexpert

Does it feel awkward bringing up safe sex to your partner(s)? 





How do I choose the right condom for me?

First Check the Lable…

Make sure to read the condom label to check if it is FDA-approved for use against unplanned pregnancy and STDs. According to FDA regulations, anything that “sufficiently resembles” a condom must comply with FDA standards including novelty condoms, like those that glow in the dark or are flavored. If condoms do not comply with these standards, they may not claim to be a contraceptive device.

Condoms also have an expiration date, make sure that your are using it BEFORE the date on the packaging.

Now Let Us Consider Size…



Did the sizing activity make you feel insecure? 







Now Let’s Discuss Material…

Latex Allergy?

What Tecture Does Your Penis Like?
What Strength Do You Need?
​​​​​​​How Hard Do You Want to Play?
How Long Do You Want To Last?

Non-latex Condoms
Non-latex condoms are ideal if you or your partner has an allergy to latex. These condoms are made from non latex materials such as polyurethane or lambskin. Non latex condoms are hypoallergenic and known for their natural feeling.

Do Your Sexy Parts Like It Slippery When Wet?

Personal Lubricants
Personal lubricants are a vital part of a healthy sex life. Find a wide selection of lubes including silicone, water-based, natural, vaginal, anal, flavored, and more. Lubricants can be used during intercourse, foreplay, desensitizing, and some are formulated to increase the likelihood of pregnancy.

 

Finally, Make Sure That We Protect All Our Body Parts During Sex!

“Nowadays, you can do anything that you want—anal, oral, fisting—but you need to be wearing gloves, condoms, protection.
― Slavoj Žižek

Dental Dams
Dental dams are thin pieces of latex or similar material that can be used to protect against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) during oral sex or rimming (anilingus). They come in the shape of a small square or rectangle and each piece should be used only one time.

How Effective Are Condoms?

According to PlannedParenthood.Org, Condoms are great at preventing both pregnancy and STDs. If you follow the instructions and use them every time you have vaginal, anal, or oral sex, there’s very little chance of pregnancy, or getting or giving an STD. 

 
 

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It’s Not About the Nail

The Unique Grief of Ending a BDSM Relationship

Autostraddle

“I always turn to words to comfort me and I am unsurprised to find that there is virtually nothing written on ending D/s relationships. There is no book I can read to feel my pain reflected on a page, to answer how long this feeling will last, to intellectualize my emotions. I turn to my favorite essay where Judith Butler’s words on grief slice me up every time. She says that grief is not a temporary state of being; we carry it with us in perpetuity. It takes on a new form as I read it now and the metaphors of bondage, ties, and control jump off the page. I read into each line in the absence of anything more relevant, ‘We’re undone by each other. And if we’re not, we’re missing something.'”

19 08 23

Source: ncsf

NCSF's Race Bannon Advocacy Award is Presented to Gayle S. Rubin

By Russell J. Stambaugh, PhD

This year, NCSF awarded the Race Bannon Advocacy Award to author and leather activist Gayle S. Rubin. She elected to be awarded from the stage at Up Your Alley Faire on July 28 on Folsom Street. I introduced and Race made the presentation as the music muted and the dancers stopped gyrating for five minutes!

Gayle was awarded for her long history of effective advocacy, including her scene and academic writing, her role in founding Samois, the first Lesbian Leather organization, her service to kink as an historian, including her work on the board of the National Leather Archives and Museum, and work on the Leather Historical District in San Francisco. Thanks Gayle! This is a small recognition for a collassal contribution!

19 08 20

(The video that follows is about 5 minutes and is NSFW in most workplaces)

Source: ncsf

Community initiatives and events

Echo Magazine

Hosted by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, September is national Consent Month, which is a time to recognize and embrace the “freedom of expression achieved when informed consent is present,” according to the organization. “We also just released our Consent Signs that are specifically designed for different groups and for people to choose from so they can post on their social media,” says spokeswoman Susan Wright. Visit the Consent Month website for more information and to learn about this vital topic.

19 08 21

Source: ncsf

Verizon sells Tumblr for a pittance of what it was once worth

FastCompany.com

“Tumblr’s fortunes declined with Yahoo’s, which sold for a fraction of its erstwhile value to Verizon in 2017. Under Verizon, Tumblr’s introduction of an NSFW content ban in late 2018 was followed by an exodus of kinky blogs, and a roughly one-third traffic drop by April 2019. Automattic also forbids porn on sites it hosts. But Tumblr may have better prospects with an owner who actually wants it, rather than a conglomerate that got stuck with it.”

19 08 19

Source: ncsf

Sex Positive Content Creation with Amp Somers – Ep 100 American Sex Podcast

Amp Somers from Watts The Safe Word discusses sex-positive content creation. We talk: the rewards & difficulties of being a Youtuber, why demonetization and censorship have snowballed, and how the mark of Youtube success has changed over the years. Amp discusses other platforms too– how people are bullying adult creators on Instagram under the guise […]

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The Advantage of a Cuddle Buddy

Have you ever felt that feeling of cloistered peace within a night’s rest, listening to the drifting wind or the soothing rain? That warm sensation that you are watched over, safe and not alone? Perhaps the comforting cuddling of another, despite the struggles and turmoils of the day by day. This elusive ideal sensation of peacetime, of relaxation. It should belong to all, as it astronomically improves one’s well being, and attitude towards life. But what is one to do in the cold, when there is no other to aid in this feeling?

Perhaps it may be received as juvenile, rejected, or unsettling, but the positive results are positively undeniable. The solution is to cuddle inanimate, comfortable objects in the absence of another. Sometimes, it is even more advantageous to cuddle inanimate objects in the presence of another partner. Why is this the case? There are two answers to this question, however. The secular advantage, in the chemical balance of the body, or perhaps the more personal perspective from that of one’s own actions.

Examining the secular advantage to inanimate cuddling is the simple act of endorphin stimulation. The comforting touch of another, be it inanimate or otherwise, is of a healing process that aids in the reinforcement of safe feelings. This act of routine or occasional relaxation provides a necessary reprieve from the day to day stresses of the singular individual. Although it may seem tacky, it allows one to revisit the instinctive comforts of youth and safety, and allows for a better sense of security overall. The continuous, unchecked anxiety of the individual unconcerned for their own wellbeing can be detrimental to daily life, so it is imperative to keep the anxiety in check and take care of it.

Turn your favorite buddy into one of our most loved products in a matter of minutes.

When looking from the personal experience perspective, the advantage of such cuddling and relief, be it an object or person, is not totally obvious. Some find it warm, unsettling, or perhaps lack the experience of such practice. But it cannot be denied the relief when, faced with monstrous and overwhelming obstacles, that one simple hug from the correct individual may grant one the strength to persevere and continue to provide their best in the trials ahead. That correct hug, that promise of safety, can be provided by something like a doll or teddy as well if preferred. 

There is nothing shameful or condemnable about self-help. It is the responsibility of yourself to tend to yourself and enjoy life’s wonders and enchanting moments, even in spite of the seemingly inescapable lows of life. No matter the person, the tools, or the object, it is important to care for your wellbeing, in any way possible. What have you to lose?

The Advantage of a Cuddle Buddy

Have you ever felt that feeling of cloistered peace within a night’s rest, listening to the drifting wind or the soothing rain? That warm sensation that you are watched over, safe and not alone? Perhaps the comforting cuddling of another, despite the struggles and turmoils of the day by day. This elusive ideal sensation of peacetime, of relaxation. It should belong to all, as it astronomically improves one’s well being, and attitude towards life. But what is one to do in the cold, when there is no other to aid in this feeling?

Perhaps it may be received as juvenile, rejected, or unsettling, but the positive results are positively undeniable. The solution is to cuddle inanimate, comfortable objects in the absence of another. Sometimes, it is even more advantageous to cuddle inanimate objects in the presence of another partner. Why is this the case? There are two answers to this question, however. The secular advantage, in the chemical balance of the body, or perhaps the more personal perspective from that of one’s own actions.

Examining the secular advantage to inanimate cuddling is the simple act of endorphin stimulation. The comforting touch of another, be it inanimate or otherwise, is of a healing process that aids in the reinforcement of safe feelings. This act of routine or occasional relaxation provides a necessary reprieve from the day to day stresses of the singular individual. Although it may seem tacky, it allows one to revisit the instinctive comforts of youth and safety, and allows for a better sense of security overall. The continuous, unchecked anxiety of the individual unconcerned for their own wellbeing can be detrimental to daily life, so it is imperative to keep the anxiety in check and take care of it.

Turn your favorite buddy into one of our most loved products in a matter of minutes.

When looking from the personal experience perspective, the advantage of such cuddling and relief, be it an object or person, is not totally obvious. Some find it warm, unsettling, or perhaps lack the experience of such practice. But it cannot be denied the relief when, faced with monstrous and overwhelming obstacles, that one simple hug from the correct individual may grant one the strength to persevere and continue to provide their best in the trials ahead. That correct hug, that promise of safety, can be provided by something like a doll or teddy as well if preferred. 

There is nothing shameful or condemnable about self-help. It is the responsibility of yourself to tend to yourself and enjoy life’s wonders and enchanting moments, even in spite of the seemingly inescapable lows of life. No matter the person, the tools, or the object, it is important to care for your wellbeing, in any way possible. What have you to lose?

Source: spa