Roleplay Master Larkin Love – Ep 87 American Sex Podcast

Adult star, Larkin Love, is our guest on ep 87 of American Sex podcast. Ken has a few red-cheeked fan-boy moments and Larkin delves into quite a few important topics: the psychology of mommy domming; the taboo nature of incest play and her insecurities when first exploring that part of herself; the censorship of taboo […]

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A Quick and Easy Guide to Queer and Trans Identities is THE DREAMIEST.

cover of a quick and easy guide to queer and trans identitiesWe got our collective, grabby little hands on a copy of Mady G. and J.R. Zuckerberg’s A Quick and Easy Guide to Queer and Trans Identities a couple weeks ago and we’re in luuuuurrrve.

It just came out this week, so we’re here to tell you that we think you — especially if there are some young people in your life you can share it with — should get your hands on a copy, too.

What is it?  This 100+ page book is a trippy, cuddly and affirming comic adventure that very warmly, gently and with great joy leads the reader through a wide range of identities and some parts of life that are often about or involve them, like intimate relationships, dysphoria, coming out, making decisions about gender expression and our bodies, including medical decisions, finding — and feeling without — community and support. It’s something that takes some subjects that can be really scary for people, especially for many queer and trans young people, and that I think could help turn a lot of that fear or dread into understanding, acceptance and happy celebration.

It’s amazing and wonderful and just the very sweetest thing, is what it is.

I think it’s going to be a goodie for just about everyone: whether you don’t know jack about any of this, or whether all of this is very much about you and you know a lot from lived experience, a million awesome queer or trans history internet rabbit holes, and other ways of learning. This is potentially for you if you feel pretty comfortable, perhaps even deeply at home, with these arenas and ways of being, or if you are feeling intimidated, lost and uncomfortable (the sheer delight in all of this will help, I promise). For those who don’t yet or currently have any queer, asexual, trans, genderqueer or nonbinary community, this can provide some of that feeling.  I think this book would be a great choice for teen readers, including young teens.internal page of a quick and easy guide to queer and trans identities featuring sproutlings!

There are talking snails! There are Sproutlings (you’ll see)! There’s even a Julia Serano cameo! There’s some dorktastically cool extras in the back. There are soft and lovely colors and beautiful patterns. There are excellent definitions and descriptions and talk-throughs and other helps for understanding concepts that can really get people twisted sometimes.

There’s oodles of mad affirmation, bigging up and support. This is a comic full of wisdom, full of whimsy, and really, really full of love. I’m completely over the moon for it. It’s my new most favorite thing.

Here’s what some of the rest of our team had to say about it:

Al:

I really, really loved this. I loved how in-depth it went into things that I tend to see covered a lot less (asexuality, dysphoria, the challenges of coming out). I really liked the Sproutlings, especially in light of their creator’s comments about imagining an idyllic world that truly does allow for infinite diversity where the rules aren’t quite so strict and the answer is almost always “Sounds good! Thank you for telling me! I love and accept you!”

Also, I lightly wept when I read the nonbinary-alien part: I can’t tell you how many times I’ve felt like an alien in my own skin. I refer to myself as a frog a lot precisely because of how the things that make me feel different from the people around me (read: brown, fat, hairy, genderqueer and generally odd) might feel more okay if I was amphibious. And I’m at least a few years older than the average “queer youth,” so I can say that I’ve 100% experienced that feeling, and that it’s spot on.

internal page of a quick and easy guide to queer and trans identities featuring snails!Mo:

I am really impressed at how it manages to present concepts in a pretty nuanced way without feeling too heavy or overwhelming for people who may be unfamiliar with what’s being discussed. The art is fun and cute without feeling *cutesy* and has a great energy to it; there’s such a great loving and celebratory vibe through the entire book. I think this will be a really helpful resource for people who are questioning or just starting to explore their queer identities and for allies who want to educate themselves; this is absolutely the sort of thing I wish I’d had oh…17 years ago when I was first starting to understand my own queerness and had a lot of questions and not many places to turn for answers.

Jacob:

This is so beautiful!!!

Sam:

I love how casual the identity sections are. They do a great job of hitting all the key points without feeling preachy. Also, the reaction the snails have to seeing all the queer humans for the first time is not unlike how I felt the first time I went to a Pride event, and I love seeing that idea that the diversity of queer presentations is something worthy of joy and wonder.

The relationship section is really strong. I could see it becoming something educators use. The prose and drawings communicate the realities of healthy and unhealthy relationships in a way that’s going to be accessible to a lot of people.

That link way up top to Simon and Schuster’s page for this book has a handful of links to places where you can buy it. We also want to make sure you don’t forget you can get it at our favorite local feminist bookstore (the endlessly amazing and resilient Women and Children First), too!

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Brothel Madam: Dena from Sheri’s Ranch – Ep 86 American Sex Podcast

On episode 86 of American Sex podcast, get a peek at what goes on behind the scenes at a brothel. Dena is the madam of Sheri’s Ranch. She tells us about what it’s like for brothel employees– how they are hired, the training and shadowing process, and the various techniques for discrete DC (that’s industry […]

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Study Could Explain Why People Choose To Have Multiple Relationships At The Same Time

Science Blog

Led by researchers at York University’s Faculty of Health, the study found there may be unique benefits to diversifying needs across partners when in a polyamorous relationship: experiencing more eroticism and nurturance with one partner was associated with satisfaction and closeness in a concurrent relationship. In addition, this study shows individuals who experience higher levels of eroticism and nurturance also report greater sexual satisfaction and closeness with their partners.

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Porn researchers give media boost

Have ever read science claiming that pornography is addictive because it “burns out your dopamine”, then been confused because you cannot find a diagnosis for “porn addiction” in either the World Health Organization or American Psychiatric Association? You are not alone.

In the last five years, anti-pornography groups have spent millions of dollars marketing fake science to consumers, then profit by selling untested therapies, anti-pornography apps, and books. This stops now.

Scientists and therapists who are experts in human sexuality have come together to provide accurate information to the public in www.realyourbrainonporn.com. The website introduces the basic principles of science, links to studies summarized by the professors who wrote them (www.realyourbrainonporn.com/research), then links you to dozens of scientists and therapists ready to connect (www.realyourbrainonporn.com/experts). These experts include the principle investigator for the first research-based porn literacy curriculum for youth, the first person to coin the expression “sex positive”, the first neuroscience lab to test the addiction model of pornography, and the lab that demonstrated porn did not impact partner satisfaction in the largest pre-registered, failure-to-replicate in the field. Experts’ background includes terminal degrees in addictions, communications and media, sociology, psychology, neuroscience, and physiology, amongst others.

If you have ever read news about pornography and thought it sounded a little too breathless, a bit over the top, or possibly completely fabricated, you are the majority. It is time to correct this public misinformation. Now you have a free resource to share with others!

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NCSF Thanks! – 1st Quarter Donation Report

Thank you to Leather SINS, an NCSF Coalition Partner, for donating $10,000 to NCSF at Kinky Kollege Spring Break in Chicago on March 31st!

 

NCSF thanks Jaiya, an NCSF Coalition Partner, for donating $1,670 to the NCSF Foundation altogether in the first quarter of 2019!

 

NCSF thanks Mistress Lucille, an NCSF Supporting Member, for donating $1,500 raised at Lucille Ballbuster’s Birthday Bash in January.

 

Thank you to New Mexico Leather League, an NCSF Coalition Partner, for donating $1,051 as their annual CP fundraiser in January.

 

Thank you to Marc DePaul for donating $1,000 to the NCSF Foundation in February!

 

NCSF thanks James Dunyak, NCSF’s New England Advocate, for donating $800 to the NCSF Foundation since December 2018!

 

Thank you Adventures in Sexuality, an NCSF Coalition Partner, for donating $395 that was raised in their “Special Drawing” at Winter Wickedness in February. Thank you also to the attendees for donating $213 at the NCSF table for our Coffee & Consent service. A grand total of $608 was raised for NCSF at this year’s Winter Wickedness!

 

NCSF thanks Modern Tribe Counseling, an NCSF Coalition Partner which provides in person and distance counseling for our community in GA and FL, for donating $250 for the SouthEast Consent Summit.

 

NCSF thanks Ms. Martha’s Corset Shoppe for donating $250 to our SouthEast Consent Summit in February.

 

Thank you to NLA Dallas, an NCSF Coalition Partner, for donating $187 in December as their Coalition Partner fundraiser.

 

Thank you to Sanctuary Studios for donating $131 in December to NCSF.

 

Thank you to Jaeleen Bennis and Bondassage for donating $100 to NCSF in February.


NCSF thanks The HardPink Sisterhood for donating $100 to the NCSF Foundation on February 11, 2019 that is dedicated to the support of the SouthEast Consent Summit.

 

NCSF thanks Joel Gleason for donating $100 to the NCSF Foundation’s SouthEast Consent Summit.

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Incident Reporting & Response – 1st Quarter 2019 report

NCSF’s Incident Reporting & Response received 41 reports & requests for assistance from individuals, groups and businesses in January, February and March 2019. This is down by over half compared to the 87 requests received in the 1st Quarter of 2018.

NCSF maintains the confidentiality of those who come to us for help, however we balance that need with the need to report the services we are providing and to provide the community with a record of where the need is the greatest.

Here is a breakdown of the cases we dealt with in the 1st Quarter of 2019:

Groups

24 groups requested assistance, slightly up from the 4th Quarter of 2018:

• 7 groups were asking about presenters/organizers or reporting they had banned someone
• 5 groups asked for resources on dealing with a consent incident or proactively creating a consent policy or consent team for their event
• 3 people asked about how to deal with being banned by a group
• 2 groups needed information on dealing with defamation lawsuits
• 2 groups reported being outed to their landlord/HOA
• 1 group needed information about insurance
• 1 group reported discrimination when their hotel broke their contract
• 1 group needed release form language regarding law enforcement officers attending
• 1 group asking about nudity/sexually explicit materials
• 1 group needed a KAP attorney for incorporation and zoning

Professional

There were 8 requests by professionals or for referrals to kink and polyamory aware professionals, similar to the 4th Quarter of 2018:

• 5 people needed referrals to kink and polyamory aware professionals, including an expert witness
• 3 professionals needed resources, research or journal references

Civil

4 requests, compared to 6 requests in the 4th Quarter of 2018:

• 3 involved workplace discrimination because of kink or nonmonogamy
• 1 sex worker asked for a referral for an incorporation attorney

Criminal

There were 3 requests for resources and information involving criminal legal matters, down from 16 requests in the 4th Quarter of 2018:

• 3 people requested resources and referrals for attorneys to assist in defending themselves against accusations of assault, violating Restraining Order, or involving their appeal.

Child Custody

There were 2 requests for resources and referrals for family court attorneys, down from 5 in the 4th Quarter and 11 in the 3rd Quarter of 2018:

• 1 involved a parent who is a sex worker
• 1 involved a parent who is polyamorous

 

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Scarleteen Mix #9: Crushing It!

scarleteen mix # 8: strut your stuff (image of a a kickass pink flamingo totally feeling himself!)

Over the years, people writing into Scarleteen have asked a lot of questions about all kinds of crushing and crushes. Concerns about crushes have included all you’d expect: like worries about rejection if a crush is being pursued — and all the usual, dizzying do-I-or-don’t-I? — worries about crush-discovery with an iffy-crush, or when crushes put someone outside heterosexuality; how to make decisions while you’re under the influence of a crush. There’s been crushes on friends, teachers, dudes on the bus, that amazing girl, someone’s brother — awkward — someone else’s girlfriend (dammit), even on someone else’s persona. There’ve been so many worries that this delightful-but-also-agonizing feeling might never end or even just give you five minutes of peace ever again.

What even IS a crush? I think crushes can be like what some people say about being in love or about porn or about orgasm: kind of hard to define, but you’ll probably know it when you feel it. There’s more than one kind of crush — there’s the lusty-lovey kind, but also just the lusty kind or just the lovey kind, but THEN there’s also friend crushes, I-want-to-be-as-cool-as-they-are crushes, parent crushes, pet crushes, crushes on someone’s creative work and so many more AND then crushes that are more than one kind at once! There’s certainly more than one way of feeling when a person has a crush or is crushed on, and goodness knows there are a million different contexts in which we all experience crushes.

Most generally, I just define crushes as a strong — usually very strong — interest in, or attraction to, someone (or something), and usually someone you’re not already super-involved with or close to. I’d personally say that a lot of what limerence, or new relationship energy is, are people with a mutual crush who are now connecting. (Shazam! SUPERCRUSH POWERS ACTIVATE!)

I’m someone who tends to identify what a crush is or isn’t for me, though, by how I’m feeling: totally distracted, no matter how hard I try to focus on something else? Check. Feeling like my whole emotional center of gravity has gone all pear-shaped? Check. Finding that my thoughts seem to have a very singular focus? A singular focus I seem to keep making everything else about? A singular focus my friends might maybe be getting really, really sick of hearing about? Eeyup. Listening to some music, sometimes on endless repeat, that makes not-crushing-me cringe and crushing-me swoon? You know it. When was the last time that I went a whole day, or even a whole hour, without thinking abou— oh dear. Yep. I’m crushing out.

The good news and the bad news for all of us is that crushes — or at least the initial intensity of them — are usually temporary. We won’t always feel that way, which, in my mind, is pretty equal parts bummer and massive relief. But whatever does or doesn’t come of crushes, whatever their shape or size, and however long they hang around for, it can be amazing and life-affirming to just let yourself fully experience the way they feel and go with it for a while.

If you want some crush-based or crush-adjacent bits to read, might I suggest:

Are you now or have you ever been floating and gooey or jangly and excited or blissed out or feeling downright tortured or just plain imploding from the giant wave of what even are all these freakishly distracting feelings? There’s a song here for that: even if you haven’t ever had a crush before you just might wind up feeling like you have one now.

This theme was super popular with our staff! Joining me this time around were Alice O., Alice M., Jacob, Siân, Chanté, Sam, Ruby and Al! You can turn it up and crush on it with us on Apple Music or Spotify

  • It’s Oh So Quiet – Björk
  • Sucker – Jonas Brothers
  • Make Me Feel – Janelle Monáe
  • I’ve Just Seen a Face – The Beatles
  • He’s So Fine – The Chiffons
  • There She Goes – Sixpence None the Richer
  • How Will I Know – Whitney Houston
  • Call Me Maybe – Carly Rae Jepsen
  • Saturday Sun – Vance Joy
  • Oh, Pretty Woman – Roy Orbison
  • Stone in Love – Journey
  • Blank Space – Taylor Swift
  • Strange Magic – Electric Light Orchestra
  • ILYSB – LANY
  • Cherry – Rina Sawayama
  • Thinkin Bout You – Frank Ocean
  • Strawberry Blond – Mitski
  • I’ve Been Waiting – Matthew Sweet
  • The Hopeful Song – Hello, I’m Sorry
  • Honey – Eryn Allen Kane
  • Bad Liar – Selena Gomez
  • I Touch Myself – Divinyls
  • Gentle Earthquakes – AURORA
  • I Melt with You – Modern English

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Taking the Taboo out of Minority Groups

Listen to Poly Anna’s Conversation: Four with Susan Wright, Founder of the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom!

Poly Anna is bi and polyamorous. She believes conversation has the power to redefine what most consider “normal.” Take the taboo out of perceptions about minority groups with Conversations/S3xploration with Poly Anna on Tuesdays, and with The After Chat with Poly Anna on Thursdays.

#NCSF #ConsentCounts #MeToo #WithPolyAnna #PolySwing #PolyAnna

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