5 Ways to Ease Your Partner Into Trying Bondage and Kink

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I’m not suggesting you need to become a connoisseur of kink in order to give kink a try. What I am suggesting is that you do your research to help you understand what’s out there and to home in on what looks good to you. It will be easier to ask for what you want if you actually know what you want to try. If your partner asks, “Why does this appeal to you?” or “What do you want to do?” you should be able to provide a reasonable answer.

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Guest Blog: What Therapists Need to Know About Consensual Non-monogamy

By Heath Schechinger, Ph.D.

Too many clients who are in consensual non-monogamous (CNM) relationships have to educate their therapists. Too many of them discontinue therapy because their therapist judged them, didn’t know enough about CNM to be helpful, or worse, makes actively stigmatizing comments such as “polyamory isn’t stable,” “women can’t do non-monogamy,” or “we can’t accept you to our therapy group as you’re non-monogamous — you wouldn’t fit in.” These are real quotes from a study about the experiences of CNM clients in therapy a couple of colleagues and I recently had accepted for publication in Journal for Clinical and Consulting Psychology.

We believe our results clearly highlight how we need to start taking the mental health needs of the CNM community seriously. For context, around 4–5% of people in the United States report that they are in CNM relationships, a comparable number to how many people identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender. More than one in five adults have also tried CNM at some point, which is not far off from how many people own a cat. We also know that interest and awareness of CNM, especially open relationships and polyamory, is on the rise, despite evidence of blatant stigma directed toward this population.

It is still rare, however, for mental and medical health professionals to receive training on how to effectively support people who are engaging in or exploring consensual non-monogamy. Given what we know about minority stress causing additional mental health burdens, I am concerned about the lack of support this community is receiving.

As co-chair of the American Psychological Association’s Division 44 Consensual Non-monogamy Task Force, I’m calling for my colleagues to thoughtfully examine our assumptions around monogamy, pursue and promote education about relationship diversity, and approach this issue with the same level of respect and care that we do with other marginalized communities.

Results, Implications, and Calls to Action

In our study, Drs. John Sakaluk, Amy Moors, and I asked 249 people engaged in CNM about their experiences in therapy, making it the largest study to date on this topic. Significantly, the study was accepted at a top-tier, mainstream clinical journal, signaling that the field of psychology is starting to recognize the importance of addressing relationship diversity.

Monogamy is privileged. It is the unquestioned status quo, prompting many therapists to assume by default that their clients are monogamous, or even, for some, that their clients should be. The publication of this paper means that mainstream psychologists may read about and subsequently treat the needs of the consensual non-monogamy community with an elevated level of respect. The article also calls on mental health researchers and providers to examine our biases and take a nonjudgemental posture toward clients engaged in consensual non-monogamy — just as we would with LGBTQ clients.

We asked participants in structured and open formats what their therapist did (or did not do) that they found to be helpful and unhelpful, allowing us to generate broad and specific practice recommendations and calls to action.

Educating Therapists

One of the most prominent themes in our data was the importance of educating therapists about CNM. For example, our participants rated therapists as being more helpful when their therapists: (1) educated themselves about CNM issues; (2) held affirming, nonjudgmental attitudes toward CNM; (3) helped them feel good about being CNM; and (4) were open to discussing issues related to a client’s relationship structure. By contrast, CNM clients rated therapists as less helpful and were more likely to prematurely discontinue therapy when their therapist: (1) lacked or refused to gather information about CNM, (2) held judgmental, (3) pathologizing, and/or (4) dismissive attitudes toward CNM.

One-fifth of our participants also reported that their therapist lacked the basic knowledge of consensual non-monogamy issues necessary to be an effective therapist, and/or had to be constantly educated about CNM issues.

That is not to say all therapists were unaware of CNM. One-third of therapists in our study were described by CNM clients as quite knowledgeable of CNM communities and resources. We also asked in an open format what our participants’ therapists did that they found particularly unhelpful. One in five of those responding mentioned their therapist lacking or refusing to gather info about CNM.

It is important to note that our results may be inflated positively as nearly half of our participants reported intentionally seeking a therapist who was affirming toward CNM. Results were generally worse among those who did not search for a CNM-affirming therapist.

These results in conjunction with the size and stigma directed toward the CNM population has led me to conclude that educating therapists needs to be addressed at the highest levels of the mental health profession. It is time to include CNM in therapist training and continuing education programs, and I am calling on my colleagues to join me in advocating for this change.

Removing Barriers to Treatment

Being able to find a therapist who is educated and affirming of CNM is also a critical issue. CNM therapy clients who screened for a CNM-affirming therapist reported better treatment outcomes. They experienced more “exemplary” and fewer “inappropriate” therapy practices by their therapists, and they rated their therapists as being more helpful than those who did not search for a CNM-affirming therapist.

I am also requesting my colleagues advocate for CNM to be included as a search term on therapist locator websites (such as Psychology Today and APA Psychologist Locator) to help remove barriers to the CNM community accessing culturally competent care.

This is a step that I am pleased to announce that APA Psychologist Locator has agreed to take. We are currently in dialog with them about adding ‘Consensual Non-monogamy’ and ‘Kink/Diverse Sexualities’ as searchable categories, with the changes (hopefully) set to go live in November/December 2018. We hope Psychology Today and other therapist locators will follow suit. …

Resources & Getting Involved

One of our initiatives is to advocate for the eventual creation of practice guidelines, similar to those that were created by the American Psychological Association for working with lesbian, gay, and bisexual therapy clients as well as transgender and gender nonconforming therapy clients.

In an effort to progress toward practice guidelines, I developed empirically-informed benchmarks that can be used to assess practices at the institutional and individual levels. Dr. Michelle Vaughan also led the charge in creating informational brochures that people engaged in CNM can provide to their medical and mental health provider(s).

You can access the benchmarking tool, language for asking about relationship style on demographic forms, informational brochures, and join the APA Division 44 Consensual Non-monogamy mailing list by signing our petition to support relationship diversity in mental health, medical health, and the legal profession. Alternatively, you can receive these resources by simply joining the mailing list.

In addition to signing our petition and/or joining our mailing list, we would like to invite you apply to join our task force or follow us on Facebook and Twitter, where we will be posting updates. I will also be making updates on my Twitter, Facebook, and Linkedin accounts.

These resources and this post can be shared freely with your network as well as your current medical and mental health providers.

Educating therapists, removing barriers to accessing treatment, asking about relationship status on demographic forms, setting benchmarks, and signing petitions will not eliminate the judgment and discrimination experienced by the CNM community — but we believe these are all important steps forward. With education and exposure we can challenge the mononormative assumptions promoting a one-size-fits all model of relating — in the same way we challenge assumptions about sexual orientation and gender diversity.

Just as monogamy is not right for everyone, neither is consensual non-monogamy. It’s not about what’s right for all, but what’s right sized for the individual.

 

Heath Schechinger, Ph.D., is a licensed counseling psychologist at the University of California, Berkeley, and Co-chair of the American Psychological Association Division 44 Consensual Non-monogamy Task Force. His private practice specializes in providing support to the CNM, kink, queer, and gender non-conforming communities.

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How Do You Get What You Want in Relationships — Do You Rebuke or Request?  

In a good relationship, partners express appreciation for each other often. They also say in kind ways what they want and what they don’t want. They don’t expect their partner to read their mind.

So don’t be afraid to ask for what you want.

Keeping a grievance inside can result in a relationship-destroying grudge. Calmly bringing up a matter that distresses you can clear the air and renew the warm feelings that were there before knots started tying up your insides.

This doesn’t mean you should point out every little fault or mistake. For a relationship to remain healthy, it’s important to tolerate minor annoyances and focus on the big picture of how well the two of you get along.

Virtually no one wants to feel criticized, so it helps to process your thoughts and emotions before speaking up. Instead of holding on to feeling wronged by the person, you’ll be able to focus more on what you’d like him (or her) to do differently. Your words, voice tone, and body language can convey your request in a way that shows loving concern. You’re wanting him to stop doing something that is harmful to himself, yourself, or others.

Examples of How to Request

Lynne liked Hunter very much. The first time he seemed to be flirting with the waitress who served their dinner, she thought she might be imagining it. Not wanting to make a big deal over what could be nothing, she held her tongue. But it happened two more times, and she felt insecure.  He was thirty-five and ready to settle down, he’d said, but he wasn’t acting that way. Lynn told herself he couldn’t be couldn’t be serious about her if he enjoyed chatting it up with waitresses. She was tempted to stop seeing him, but wasn’t quite ready because he has so many good qualities.  

Finally, she told Hunter, “I like being with you very much, so I think you’d want me to tell you about something I find disturbing. When you flirt with a waitress, I’m uncomfortable. I want to feel special to you, not like you’re attracted to someone else, whether or not I’m present.”

Hunter took her message to heart. He said, “It’s a bad habit. I’m sorry I made you uncomfortable. It’s my insecurity showing. I think I do the flirting to prove that women find me attractive. I won’t do it again.”

Had she withheld her feelings and her request, Lynn probably would have built up a grudge and ended the relationship. Instead, she gave him a gift: the opportunity to correct his behavior.

Maybe you feel annoyed by someone who regularly interrupts you, is often late, or forgets your birthday. Whatever is important enough to address in order to keep the two of you on an even keel is grist for a respectful conversation that focuses on what you would like him to do next or from now on.

Accepting Requests Graciously

In a good relationship, requests go both ways. What if he says, for example, that he dislikes being interrupted by you, that it makes him lose his train of thought? You may have a knee-jerk reaction to feel offended. But if he’s telling the truth respectfully, thank him, even if he doesn’t add the ideal, “I’d like you to be patient so I can finish speaking before you respond.”

Constructive feedback, offered in a loving way, helps us grow. When we become more aware of when we’re about to behave in a way that we’ve learned upsets someone, we’ll be more likely to switch gears and do better. Consequently, we’ll probably also improve our relationships with friends, family members, and others.

Polishing the Rough Edges

Partners in lasting, fulfilling relationships focus mostly on each other’s positive qualities. But they also respond to each others imperfections constructively and graciously. If they didn’t, they could stay stuck behaving in ways that could distance themselves from each other emotionally.

Rebuke is like sandpaper. Couples who use it wisely, stating it as a request, smooth out each other’s rough edges over time while remaining emotionally close.

Jen explains how she does this with her husband. He leave crumbs on the counter, which annoys her. She simply tells him nicely, “It would help me out if you would wipe the crumbs off the counter.”

A friend told her fiancé about an engagement ring she liked, “It would make me happy if you would get me this one.”

Regardless of how nicely you put it, however, there’s no guarantee that the person will do what pleases you.

But how will you know if you don’t try? Regardless of the outcome, you’re likely to learn something. It may be to accept minor imperfections, or it may be that the world doesn’t come to an end when we ask for what we want. Or, as often happens, we learn that our partner wants to please us and to do his best to make us happy.

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Trial, Meet Error: The Story of a Pharmacy Regular

“Why isn’t this medication working?” me in 2002.

“Why isn’t this medication working?” me in 2018.

When the university nurse first prodded me to consider medication, I hesitated before eventually relenting. My reasoning: While this little white pill may not be my salvation, it surely can’t hurt.

Or can it?

Over the past 16 years, my medication history is longer than a typical Catholic wedding. A is for Abilify, B is for Buspar, C is for Clonazepam…and, well, you get the idea.

Medication, I naively hoped, would be a cure-all — a foolproof remedy for intrusive, tormenting thoughts. And while medication has, at times, lowered the volume on my depressive radio, it has come with its own set of challenges.  

Speaking from firsthand experience — now 16 years and counting, medications have potent and, at times, debilitating side effects. From complaining about grogginess to bouts of irritability to general apathy, my panicked emails to my dedicated health care team bear this out. Pinpointing the right medication is trial and error — in my case, a 16-year trial replete with lots of errors (and lethargy and grogginess and irritability).

When I first accepted the shiny white pill, at the university nurse’s gentle insistence, I had no idea I had just signed up for a 16-year medication joyride. In my naïveté, there was an implicit assumption — “just give the medication six weeks and life will suddenly become unicorns, rainbows, and free Beyonce concerts.”

Forget unicorns and a resplendent Beyonce sashaying in her yellow dress, I will take six weeks without a panic-stricken email to my dedicated health care provider (thank you, Dr. Neumaier, for your endless patience).

More than lamenting my own trials and tribulations, though, this article is intended for “Prozac Nation” — the millions of Americans seeking magic in a pill bottle as we shuffle from one supposed elixir to another. I understand the frustration — even despair — because I have lived it: the dry mouth, the racing heartbeat, the mental grogginess.  

After 16 years wandering in the (medication) desert, I believe I am inching closer to a long(er)-term solution. Knock on proverbial wood — or that Bartell’s counter that I have visited all too frequently. While Wellbutrin is far from perfect — and, yes, my mood vacillates more than Tesla stock — it is has provided a level of clarity and creativity. After years of medications numbing my mood, feelings, and, in some respects, life enjoyment, there is a level of comfort to know that there is a medication that, you know, actually works.

An estimated 40 million Americans now take a psychiatric drug; these drugs are as much of an American institution as the 9 to 5 and Thanksgiving family feuds. Despite prescription drugs’ ubiquity, however, their effects are deeply personal, even idiosyncratic (notwithstanding your health care professional’s calming reassurances that “you will feel better in no time”). For some, Prozac Nation may be an accurate title. For others, including yours truly, Wellbutrin World is a more fitting descriptor. One unmistakable lesson (and revelation) during my 16 years of medication cat and mouse: the best prescription may be, well, another prescription.  

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Breast Milk Best for Premature Babies’ Brain Development

Premature babies show better brain development when fed breast milk rather than formula, according to a new study.

Premature birth has been linked to an increased possibility of problems with learning and thinking skills in later life, which are thought to be linked to alterations in brain development, according to researchers at the University of Edinburgh.

Previous studies have shown that pre-term birth is associated with changes in the part of the brain’s structure that helps brain cells communicate with one another, known as white matter.

For their study, researchers studied MRI brain scans from 47 babies from a study group known as the Theirworld Edinburgh Birth Cohort.

The babies were born before 33 weeks gestation. Scans took place when they reached term-equivalent age, an average of 40 weeks from conception, the researchers reported.

The researchers also collected information about how the infants had been fed while in intensive care — either formula milk or breast milk from the mother or a donor.

The study found that babies who exclusively received breast milk for at least three-quarters of the days they spent in hospital showed improved brain connectivity.

The effects were greatest in babies who were fed breast milk for a greater proportion of their time spent in intensive care, the researchers discovered.

“Our findings suggest that brain development in the weeks after preterm birth is improved in babies who receive greater amounts of breast milk,” said Professor James Boardman, director of the Jennifer Brown Research Laboratory at the University of Edinburgh.

“This study highlights the need for more research to understand the role of early life nutrition for improving long-term outcomes for pre-term babies.”

“Mothers of pre-term babies should be supported to provide breast milk while their baby is in neonatal care — if they are able to and if their baby is well enough to receive milk — because this may give their children the best chance of healthy brain development,” he concluded.

The study was published in the journal NeuroImage.

Source: University of Edinburgh

Photo: The data suggest that brain connections in preterm babies are improved with greater amounts of breast milk in the weeks after birth. Credit: Jennifer Brown Research Laboratory, the University of Edinburgh.

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Regular Bedtime Can Help Keep Older Adults Healthy

A regular bedtime is not just for kids. A new study on sleep patterns suggests that a regular bedtime and wake time are just as important for heart and metabolic health among older adults.

In a study of 1,978 older adults, researchers at Duke Health and the Duke Clinical Research Institute found people with irregular sleep patterns weighed more, had higher blood sugar, higher blood pressure, and a higher projected risk of having a heart attack or stroke within 10 years than those who slept and woke at the same times every day.

Irregular sleepers were also more likely to report depression and stress than regular sleepers, both of which are tied to heart health, according to the researchers.

African-Americans had the most irregular sleep patterns compared to participants who were white, Chinese-American or Hispanic, the study’s findings showed.

The findings show an association — but not a cause-and-effect relationship — between sleep regularity and heart and metabolic health, according to the researchers.

“From our study, we can’t conclude that sleep irregularity results in health risks, or whether health conditions affect sleep,” said Jessica Lunsford-Avery, Ph.D., an assistant professor in psychiatry and behavioral sciences and the study’s lead author. “Perhaps all of these things are impacting each other.”

The data suggest tracking sleep regularity could help identify people at risk of disease, and where health disparities may impact specific groups, such as African Americans, she noted.

“Heart disease and diabetes are extremely common in the United States, are extremely costly, and also are leading causes of death in this country,” she said. “To the extent we can predict individuals at risk for these diseases, we may be able to prevent or delay their onset.”

For the study, participants used devices that tracked sleep schedules down to the minute so researchers could learn whether even subtle changes — going to bed at 10:10 p.m. instead of the usual 10 p.m. — were linked to the health of participants.

Study participants ranged in age from 54 to 93. People with diagnosed sleep disorders, such as sleep apnea, were not included in the study, she noted.

The study also tracked the duration of participants’ sleep and whether someone turned in early or was a night owl. According to these measures, people with hypertension tended to sleep more hours, and people with obesity tended to stay up later, the study discovered.

Of all three measures, however, regularity was the best at predicting someone’s heart and metabolic disease risk, the researchers found.

As one might expect, irregular sleepers experienced more sleepiness during the day and were less active, perhaps because they were tired, Lunsford-Avery said.

The study was published in the journal Scientific Reports.

Source: Duke University Medical Center

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Bosses Who Procrastinate May Breed Contempt in Their Staffs

A new study reveals that managers who procrastinate when making decisions and carrying out tasks not only leave employees feeling less committed to the business, but also more likely to display abnormal and unpleasant behavior.

Most alarmingly, this can escalate beyond taking unnecessary sick days to becoming abusive to colleagues and stealing office supplies, according to an international research team led by Drs. Alison Legood and Allan Lee from the University of Exeter in the U.K.

“We have found procrastination from managers can be really detrimental to their staff, and companies need to take action to ensure there are better relationships between bosses and employees,” said Lee, a senior lecturer in organization studies and management at the University of Exeter’s Business School.

“When bosses fail to do their work, knowing this will cause problems for others, it causes their staff to become frustrated and leaves them less committed to their employer.”

For the study, the researchers collected data from 290 employees on the impact of their leaders procrastinating, and measured how much managers procrastinated based on questions such as “my manager delays making decisions until it’s too late.”

The researchers also collected further information from 250 workers, and their 23 supervisors, in a Chinese textile manufacturing company in Zhejiang Province.

Employees were asked to rate their relationships with their bosses, while managers were asked to rate whether staff were deviant and how committed they seemed to the company, the researchers report.

The results show that when leaders procrastinate, this leads to “deviant behavior” from their staff.

The researchers, also from SOAS University of London and Deakin University in Australia, suggest that staff should try to discover why their managers are prone to procrastination, and also take part in any decision making to help combat the issue.

Companies also could deliver training to try to encourage better relationships between staff and managers, the researchers advised.

“We found employees are less likely to be frustrated by their leaders’ procrastination if they had a good relationship with that leader,” Lee noted. “Encouraging feedback sessions, such as 360-degree feedback, may help leaders to become more aware of their own behavior, and sharing leadership could reduce the effect of a procrastinating leader.”

The study was published in the Journal of Occupational and Organizational Psychology.

Source: University of Exeter

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Mediterranean Diet May Reduce Stroke Risk in Middle-Aged Women

A new U.K. study finds that adhering to a Mediterranean-style diet can significantly lower the risk of stroke in women over the age of 40, regardless of menopausal status or hormone replacement therapy.

A traditional Mediterranean-style diet includes a high intake of fish, fruits, nuts, vegetables, cereal foods and potatoes and reduced meat and dairy consumption.

The research, published in the journal Stroke, is one of the largest and longest-running efforts to evaluate the potential benefits of the Mediterranean-style diet in lowering risk of stroke.

Over a 17-year period, researchers from the Universities of East Anglia, Aberdeen and Cambridge examined 23,232 participants’ diets and compared stroke risk among four groups ranked highest to lowest by how closely they adhered to a Mediterranean style diet.

Study participants (Caucasian, ages 40 to 77) were from the EPIC-Norfolk study, the United Kingdom Norfolk arm of the multicenter European Prospective Investigation into Cancer study.

In participants who most closely followed a Mediterranean-style diet, the reduced onset of stroke was:

  • 17 percent in all adults;
  • 22 percent in women; and
  • 6 percent in men (which researchers said could have been due to chance).

“It is unclear why we found differences between women and men, but it could be that components of the diet may influence men differently than women,” said Ailsa A. Welch, Ph.D., study lead author and professor of nutritional epidemiology at the University of East Anglia, United Kingdom.

“We are also aware that different sub-types of stroke may differ between genders. Our study was too small to test for this, but both possibilities deserve further study in the future.”

The researchers also found a 13 percent overall reduced risk of stroke in participants already at high risk of cardiovascular disease across all four groups of the Mediterranean-diet scores. However, this was driven primarily by women who showed a 20 percent reduced stroke risk. This benefit appeared to be extended to participants in the low risk group although the possibility of a chance finding cannot be ruled out completely.

“Our findings provide clinicians and the public with information regarding the potential benefit of eating a Mediterranean-style diet for stroke prevention, regardless of cardiovascular risk,” said Professor Phyo Myint, M.D., study co-author and former British Association of Stroke Physicians Executive Committee member, University of Aberdeen, Scotland.

“A healthy, balanced diet is important for everyone both young and old,” said Welch.

The study used seven-day diet diaries, which the researchers said had not been done before in such a large population. Seven-day diaries are more precise than food-frequency questionnaires and participants write down everything they eat and drink over the period of a week.

Research suggests that having a stroke can increase the risk of anxiety and/or depression. Depression affects between one- and two-thirds of stroke survivors, according to the American Stroke Association.

Source: American Heart Association

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Pebbles on the Beach.



“There are always plenty of other fish in the sea.” Do people still really say that in the sincere hope of cheering up a close friend or family member who’s been jilted?

Alternatively: “Don’t worry there are lots of pebbles on the beach.”

Well I made a good, though perhaps not so scientific, investigation when I was on holiday. As a result, I can verify that there were very few fish in the sea (it was after all the Mediterranean). As for the pebbles on the beach, yes there were plenty of those and in a variety of different colours and shapes. You know what though, essentially they were all identical; smooth, hard, and uninteresting; “chips off the same block”.

Originally posted on 9 August 2007

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When Led Zeppelin Reunited and Crashed and Burned at Live Aid (1985)

I’ve tended to avoid reunion shows from my favorite bands of old, and I’ve missed some great performances because of it, I’m told, and also a few clunkers and forgettable nostalgia trips. But sometimes it really doesn’t matter how good or bad the band is ten or twenty years past their prime—or that one or more of their original members has left their mortal coil or shuffled off into retirement. It’s such a thrill for fans to see their heroes that they’ll overlook, or fail to notice, serious onstage problems.

The crowd of thousands at Philly’s JFK Stadium exploded  after “Rock and Roll,” Led Zeppelin’s opener to their 1985 Live Aid reunion gig (above), with Phil Collins and Chic’s Tony Thompson doubling on drum duties (because it takes two great drummers to equal one John Bonham, I guess). But according to the musicians themselves, the show was an absolute fail—so much so that Collins nearly walked offstage in the middle of the 20-minute set. “It was a disaster really,” he said in a 2014 interview, “It wasn’t my fault it was crap.”

Collins expands on the problems in his candid autobiography:

I know the wheels are falling off from early on in the set. I can’t hear Robert clearly from where I’m sat, but I can hear enough to know that he’s not on top of his game. Ditto Jimmy. I don’t remember playing ‘Rock and Roll,’ but obviously I did. But I do remember an awful lot of time where I can hear what Robert decries as ‘knitting’: fancy drumming…. you can see me miming, playing the air, getting out of the way lest there be a train wreck. If I’d known it was to be a two-drummer band, I would have removed myself from proceedings long before I got anywhere near Philadelphia.

As for the Zeppelin members proper, Plant and Page had no fond memories of the gig. “It was horrendous,” said Plant in 1988. “Emotionally, I was eating every word that I had uttered. And I was hoarse. I’d done three gigs on the trot before I got to Live Aid.” Page, writes Rolling Stone, “was handed a guitar right before walking onstage that was out of tune.” “My main memories,” he later recalled, “were of total panic.” Apparently, no one thought to ask John Paul Jones about the show.

Barely rehearsed (Jones arrived “virtually the same day as the show”) and with failing monitors ensuring the band could hardly hear themselves, they struggled through “Rock and Roll,” “Whole Lotta Love,” and “Stairway to Heaven.” The footage, which the band scrapped from the 2004 DVD release, doesn’t show them at their best, for sure, but it’s maybe not quite as bad as they remembered it either (see the full concert above).

In any case, Plant was so inspired that he tried to reunite the band, with Thompson back on drums, in secret rehearsals a few months later. The attempt was “embarrassing,” he’s since said. “We did about two days…. Jonesy played keyboards, I played bass. It sounded like David Byrne meets Hüsker Dü.” Now that is a reunion I’d pay good money to see.

22 years later, at London’s O2 Arena, the band was confident and totally on top of their game once again for the Ahmet Ertegun Tribute Concert, with Jason Bonham behind the kit. Probably their last performance ever, and it’s damned good. See “Black Dog” above and buy the full concert film here.

The clip below lets you see more than 90 minutes of Led Zeppelin reunion concerts. Beyond their Live Aid show, it includes performances at Atlantic Records’ 4oth anniversary (1988) and at the Rock’n Roll Hall of Fame (1995).

Related Content:

Hear Led Zeppelin’s First Recorded Concert Ever (1968)

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Led Zeppelin Plays One of Its Earliest Concerts (Danish TV, 1969)

Jimmy Page Describes the Creation of Led Zeppelin’s “Whole Lotta Love”

Josh Jones is a writer and musician based in Durham, NC. Follow him at @jdmagness

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